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writes:My boyfriend hasn't seen me for nearly a week. Should i leave him?. I told him that i love him, but i don't like that we hardly see each other sometimes, and he replied saying " I do love you. I've got the confidence in our relationship. Please try sharing in that when we are apart. So you've got to keep the faith. I'm keeping the love that we had when we last saw each other ". I'm really upset. If he loves me, why does he choose to not see me for this long?. It would be different if he couldn't see me, such as if he had to work ( he doesn't work, by the way ), or if he had gone on holiday. Would any of you put up with this?. When he gets paid, he does his own thing sometimes, and then the week after that, we see each other every day, or almost every day. So, it's like, one week i see him, then the next i don't that much. It also wouldn't be so bad if he just had a couple of days where he didn't see me each week. It feels like he might only want to see me when he cant do anything else. I might be wrong, but that's what it feels like. It does seem like he loves me a lot when he see him, and we have been together for just over a year. I just wish we could do things together sometimes on the week that he gets paid. I haven't replied to his text yet, as i'm not sure what to say. I dont want to get into an argument or discuss things too much over the phone. I'd rather do that in person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2013): Some people compartmentalize everything in their lives. If your bf is one of them, he may have mentally put you in his "weekend box". Talk to him about this & tell him you want to feel more a part of his life. If he won't agree, then the two of you have different definitions of what a relationship means and may have to break up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2013): I've had a similar problem myself with two men. When i look for solutions on the internet it says to either talk to them about it or take a step back and make them miss you. In both of my cases I talked to them about it and it never ended well. It became a vicious cycle where the more they avoided the more i talked about it until it ended. So I would try to take a step back. Show him you dont need him to have fun. Say you are busy next time he wants to see you. I know its hard but what is better: to not see each other much for the next few weeks and send him the message that you are an independent woman or to overwhelm him and end up fighting about it or worse? This is only based on my experience though. I wish you the very best!!! Im keeping my fingers crossed for you. I know how heartbreaking it is sometimes.
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reader, Romanilove  +, writes (27 April 2013):
This sounds shady. I agree with unicorn 123. Tell your boyfriend how you feel. Particularly that its strange and questionable that the weekend he gets paid he avoids you. Whats up with that? Make it clear your not clingy but base it more on the particularity of the timeframe he doesnt make an effort to see you.
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reader, unicorn123 +, writes (27 April 2013):
 I think you need to talk to him and discuss how you are feeling. Even if it does cause an argument at least you have laid all your cards on the table and he will know how you feel. I do agree that you need to talk to him in person when you tell him what is on your mind.
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