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writes:I already know it's wrong to be with a married man but I want a relationship with him and all he wants is sex cause he has a new baby and his wife is too busy for sex! Is it realistic for me to want a relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): You just want sex but you won't just want that when he tells you its over and goes back to living the family life. You will feel used and it will affect your ability to trust a man. If you just want sex you can go to a club or find a network or get some single guy - this man is available because his wife is tired. Unless you are a paid prostitute I can't see why you go for someone in that situation? Do you prefer men that are not available?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Just don't do it. How would you feel if you had a husband who you loved alot, who you'd just made a child with, who slept with some one else just because you were at a stage where you couldn't please him as he was used too. Marriage is about committing to someone and continueing to committ to them even when they are temporarily unable to satisfy you. The woman's just had a baby. She's tired, hormonal, her bodies been through a huge shock and she probably feels like a fat cow. The last thing she wants is to be having alot of sex. But that's going to change and her husband will again be getting some. Also, shame on him. Don't you have more respect for yourself? If all he wants from you is sex than that's all your going to get, no emotional investment. So 'relationship' is the wrong word. You deserve better and his wife deserves better. Find a guy that gives you all you need emotionally and sexually.
Don't mean to sound harsh but you really do deserve better, it's blindingly obvious.
Good Luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): you never choose who you fall for, all through your life wether you are single, married or dating there will always be other people who you are attracted to, however you can choose how you act on these feelings.
Firstly do you think if this man did leave his wife and child for you, would you trust him not to get bored and cheat on you? or go back to his family?
Secondly spare a thought for the wife, and put yourself in her shoes, how would you feel if it happened to you.
I think you need to get real with yourself, how do you feel this affair will end
get out while you can!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Stop for a moment and think about how you would feel if you were his wife.
I can tell you, only physical or not, it would crush her.
I know, I just found out that my wife of three and half years has been having an online affair with a man almost 20 years younger than I am. I'm crushed to say the least.
Do you really want to hurt someone else that badly? And believe me, since you know he's married, you would be just as guilty as he is for doing it.
Is that something you want on your conscience? Especially with someone who has already admitted that he only wants to use you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Wow - what world are you living in? I am married with children and feel that until you put yourself in his wife's shoes you shouldn't do anything with this man.Yes, sex sucks after a baby is born. I had 3 kids myself and it is no picnic. However, if he is having a problem in that area he should either jack-off by himself or ask his wife to assist. Going outside the marriage, unless it is an open marriage, is always a bad idea. He needs to grow up - he's a father now. Even if he is going to leave his wife, which I doubt since all he wants is sex, you are wasting your time. I've been on both sides - 15 years ago I had an ex that went on to remarry and then called me to talk but in the end he was looking for something purely sexual. He seriously would call me at work and tell me he was masturbating thinking of me. I also met up with him a few times to talk but would never do anything with him. He was married - he made his choice and I just couldn't bring myself to get down to his level. Now that I am married I still feel it is inappropriate to go outside the marriage when the going gets tough. Really, if he wants to have sex with someone else he should get a divorce so then the two of you can be together if that is what you want...a man with an ex-wife and child support.Whatever you choose, do what you feel is right and not b/c you want to have a relationship with this man. He is unavailable and just looking to please himself not you. I don't know you at all but know that you could do a whole lot better!!!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (16 October 2008):
 It's realistic to want all kinds of things. I want my neighbors car...and his boat. They don't belong to me. Would it be wrong for me to take his stuff and use it when he's not looking? Of course. Should you have sex with someone else's husband? NO !!! It is not wrong to feel an attraction but it's wrong to behave like you're suggesting.
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reader, Intimate Answers +, writes (16 October 2008):
 RUN the other way... This is like planting something that can NEVER bloom! Leave this situation alone - do not allow yourself to be used! There are too many other great opportunities out there!-INTIMATE ANSWERS
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reader, Intimate Answers +, writes (16 October 2008):
RUN the other way... This is like planting something that can NEVER bloom! Leave this situation alone - do not allow yourself to be used! There are too many other great opportunities out there!-INTIMATE ANSWERS
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