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writes:This is a strange post but I can't stop thinking about it. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year. We get on well and have a good relationship. The other night he came around to mine and we ended up making love. Somehow the condom came off and ended up on the floor.Anyway we were both a bit stunned as this had NEVER happened before. I told him I needed to get the morning after pill, which I bought as soon as I could and took straight away.Since then I keep questioning whether it was an accident at all. We got dressed and talked. He didn't freak out and instead joked about it. I told him I couldn't see myself as a mum and said "can you imagine me being a mum"? The look on his face was like "yeah". Later he wanted to make love again. I started thinking about everything that happened and I kept thinking how did he not know that he wasn't wearing a condom. I mean...How could he not know? I asked him if it really was an accident and he swore to me that it was but I'm not so sure. Is it possible to wear a condom and then not know it has come off? What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey guys thanks for your responses. I'm going to see my GP about a more reliable form of contraception. Deep down I don't think he did anything on purpose but it was just his reaction that made me think. Since that day his attitude toward me has not changed at all which I think reassures me. Thanks again to everyone that responsed and Happy New Year x
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010): I wouod be suspicious. Most men are aware when it comes off or it breaks. People do lose condoms sometimes during sex, but they might get lost inside of the woman or end up on the bed....typically not on the floor.
Which one of you noticed it was on the floor?
If you said something like, "Where's the condom?" and he said, "it's on the floor", I might worry. Even then, it might not have been an orchestrated accident, but a big lapse of responsibility. It could have come off and he neglected to tell you or put another one on in the moment.
If he brought it up the fact that the condom was missing, I would believe it waws a genuine accident.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (31 December 2010):
A condom slipping off whilst he's inside you is very, very unlikely to be something he'd do on purpose. It almost happened to me a while back, and you really don't notice. It would be even harder to do it on a purpose.
If he'd wanted to do something on purpose, I'd agree with the post below. He'd be more likely to put a hole in it, or flat out refuse to wear one.
I think you need to be careful that you don't blow your relationship up over something that was just an accident. And as an added precaution, maybe get yourself on the pill too.
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reader, Honest Answer  +, writes (31 December 2010):
 I've never had one come off, but I did bust the bottom out in one.
Heres my take, If you two were using extra lube, or you are extremely wet, I could see this as a possibly.
Think about it, If he was being sinister, I think he would have put a hole in it instead of taking it off and playing dumb.
I think you have nothing to worry about.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010): Yes, I've had that happen, Unless you're actually looking in the throws of passion it's quite likely a guy won't notice.
As you say you were both a bit stunned which is understandable, and it sounds to me like he just wants to be there for you and was trying to reassure you.
- Just my 2 cents.
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (31 December 2010):
 Uhm...honestly I HIGHLY doubt it. My bf tells me how awesome not having a condom is and how much different it feels. You really believe your bf couldnt tell the difference between latex and you????
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010): yeah its known to happen .but if he was joking then he might have pulled it off.
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