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writes:I am still in love with my ex boyfriend and I really want us back together. we been together for almost two years and we broke up three weeks ago. He is suddenly so distant with me and ignores me. I know the reason is because we always argue about everything that in the end , it disturbs our studying and none of us get anything done. I want to prove to him that I am a changed person and he is the one for me. But I lost that chance because every time I say I would change, I end up the same way and i know he believed it as "cry wolf". Everyone is telling me that I should stop trying to contact him and let him come to me because thats how guys are but I miss him so much and it hurts. I feel as though if I don't talk to him, he will forget about me and move on. Please tell me how you guys get the person you love back? what do u do when your in a situation like mines. He is the only person I want to be with and I shouldnt have taken it for granted when I had him. This is the first time his been so cold to me and not want to make up. Does he not want to be with me anymore?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2012): if there have been many times you promised change and never did, there comes a point when you just end up killing off all of his feelings for you. that point has already passed. you're asking too much of him to take you back. You're basically asking him to set aside all the times you broke your promises, to risk getting let down yet again. there is no difference between this time and the previous times. There really isn't.
so nothing you do now will make a difference to him. But, you can move on and make those changes so you don't drive away a new relationship in the future.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 October 2012):
 I’m sorry you miss him and are hurting… I can tell you that you can’t change your fundamental personality traits and you are who you are…
If you don’t talk to him or if you do it does not matter, if he wants to move on he’s going to move on… I know it hurts and it sucks to be you right now but you must accept reality.
He does NOT want to be with you and he’s told you that… if you fight all the time and nothing is getting done, then to be honest he’s doing the right thing.
I promise you will find someone who loves you for you…
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2012): Honey, you are doing exactly what he does not want, stop chasing him and let go. You cannot force someone to come back to you and by chasing after him, you are pushing him further away. I recommend that you concentrate on your studies and have different friends. He needs the time apart and just maybe he will miss you. Start the 'no contact' rule immediately and hopefully it will help you. You need to start acting positive, happy, confident, carefree, the qualities that generally attract men to woman. Stop crying, begging and mopping around it is not going to bring him back. Just remember you are young and can find someone that will make you happy. Give him his space and also learn to enjoy life. Fix the problems within yourself or all your relationships will be doomed. By sending him messages or phoning, you are going to end up feeling worse as he will ignore you. Start healing, remember no contact. When you feel like sending him a message or call him, phone a friend that you can talk to and give you the confidence not to call.
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