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writes:Is it possible to cut someone out of your life after 23 years of knowing each other?My delima is not so simple, known my husband all my life,met him at age 16 married at 18.Two grown boys both gone,alot of ups and downs over this time.Age diffrence of 10 years between us. We get along as friends mostly we still married,function as a household but there is no intimacy left between us.We havent had sex in over 2 years,and neither of us even question it ,it is like a fact of life.We dont even sleep in same room ,havent in 7 years.But how do you seperate all that time together to move forward,is it even possible.....Or do we all just stay in the daily grind of life as is because it is how it suppose to be.
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reader, mcbirdie  +, writes (19 May 2007):
 If you are asking if you can end your marriage, then the answer is of course, yes. I am not quite sure, though, why you are asking about cutting someone out of your life. You do not need to lose someone from your life completely, to change the nature of your relationship. Twenty-three years is a long time--you've shared an incredible amount know each other very well. If there is still friendship between you, you can end the marriage and still keep all of that.
You deserve to have romance and arousal in your life, just like everyone else. You should take every opportunity to change your life for the better. But I would also point out that you don't have to make such a large trade-off. Talk to your husband. I'm sure he is sharing some of these feelings and the two of you can figure out how to get you both happier.
Best of luck to you both.
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