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writes: How much drink is acceptable in a week. My boyfriend loves beer - he used to drink about 5 or 6 cans in the evening but was able to hold it really well. A few nights he went out clubbing and got very drunk and he cheated on me. We broke up but a year later he is begging another chance that he changed. I've said the drink has to cut back alot, so now i see just one beer in the evening but i'm scared he will get drunk if out with the lads. How do i stop him getting drunk - i want him to be able to take a few but not drink excessively - obviously there are trust issues with drink now because of his past. Or is it even possible to change a drinker - will he sneak behind my back now? I take a few drinks but know when i've had enough but he couldn't get enough when i last dated him and i put up with it but now i won't put up with it.
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reader, Toria +, writes (25 September 2006):
 You need to let him see that drink is what caused you two to break up and that your worried that when out he may drink to the excess and do something stupid again and you don't want that to happen as he is already on his second chance.
There really is no way to stop him over drinking when out without you, you just have to hope and trust he will have learnt from the last time and not drink to the point he does something he will regret so unless your stopping him going out there really isn't alot you can do when your not with him all the time.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Mr S  +, writes (25 September 2006):
 Hi
I understand that your boyfriend is drinking a little more than you like and you have asked how much drinking is acceptable. Well the answer to this is not an easy one, I have known men that can drink 10 cans and be ok (Drunk but in control) I have known other men that drink a couple of cans and become absolute idiots.
The way I would put the question to you is how much can he drink before you find his behaviour unacceptable and that is your answer.
Many young people drink too much because they think its cool and clever, but its not. It shows a total lack of maturity and is a totally selfish attitude. Constant binge drinking will cause medical problems in the future and wreck any descant relationship.
My strong advice to you is to help him to stop drinking. Well cut it down to one or two sessions a week, drinking one or two cans. This will also test his love and commitment to you. Drinking excessively is a large curse on society and keeps many families in poverty. An occasional drink is fine even going out and getting drunk once in a while is Ok however, constant drinking even small quantities is not.
I would therefore tell him to cut right down (not necessarily stop completely) or finish you relationship until he is man enough to know when he has had enough to drink.
Remember a true man is not a one that can drink ten or twenty cans; it’s a man that knows what there limit is without becoming stupid, embarrassing or ill. It could also be called a mature adult. If he continues to act like a child walk away until he grows up.
This unfortunately for you is one occasions when a lot of pain know (braking up) will probably save you years of anguish and pain later.
To yourself be true
All the best
Mr S
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