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writes:Hi there, My problem is that I can't trust my current girlfriend. We have been together for a month. But have known each other for 4 years. The problem stems from a few text messages i read on her phone from her ex boyfriend, which read 'I love you 2' and 'stop playing with my heart'. These messages were sent 2 weeks after she had been together with me. She explained that she sent him a text message saying 'no matter what happens she will always love him'. However i asked if she had feelings for him and she said no not any more. I feel like i can't trust her. Even though she claims that she loves me and i'm the one for her. Is it possible to be with a partner and not trust them 100%, but disconnect yourself emotionally so you don't get hurt?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys. She says that she still loves me and wants to be in a relationship e.t.c. But I think i need to be strong now and not trust a word she says. I just feel like such a fool... i knew this would happen from day one and yet i still trusted her. I suppose some girls just can't be trusted no matter what. I hope that the pain goes away soon and I can analyze it a bit better.
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reader, growing  +, writes (10 May 2008):
 Well thats sad to read,but....
remember the golden rule
EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON AND FOR YOUR GOOD .
so just be strong and move on..
its hard as you wrote but...
You will get sum1,who came in this world just for you.
count down begins now
3
2
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she will come!!
Try to smile again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): I know this hurts for you, but there are far better ladies for you out there that deserve a seemingly nice guy like you! Good decition honey, lots of luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionQuick Update: I split up with her tonight. After we had intercourse I could see something was wrong. So i persevered in asking her. She admitted to still loving her ex and having feelings for him. I felt angry, but more relieved that she has told me now instead of 2 months down the line. She tells me she loves me though. But i told her that I can't be in a relationship with her, due to her feelings for her ex. Its hard to take.. but yet i think its the right decision.
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reader, growing +, writes (9 May 2008):
i read your new post and liked the way you opted.
good decision!!
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reader, growing +, writes (9 May 2008):
If break up is new then it can be that her ex still has feelings for her and thats why bothers her and she is just handling situation at her own without involving you.so give her time and yes ,if you can hold your feelings back for her,then it's good that you can help yrself from not getting hurt but if you can do this then why to give time to this relationhsip?just move on,bcos it will be easy for you. why to take risk?
right???
I can't relate to this style of love where you love sum1 and don't get involve emotionally.
probably the new one!!
wow!!now no more tears after break up..
hurraahhhhh!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice guys. I believe she does really like /love me. However she can not separate herself from her ex boyfriend. They split up about a year ago, but were still seeing each other up until a month before we started dating. But she said that their relationship was purely of a sexual nature. I'm willing to give her another chance, and told her to delete his number from her phone and never speak to him again. So hopefully, if she really does love me, then she will conclude her relationship with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): Your body gives you the clue, it as reacted to protect you. Go with your gut instinct and find someone new before the relationship proceeds any further.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): i think this girl has feelings for her ex. hint on the "i love you too" also shes lying about not caring for her ex. she either lying to him or you. not a very good sign a month into the relationship... how long have they been apart because it seems to me shes just on the rebound. sorry bud but you need to leave this chick alone before you get hurt cause if you really like her than theres no way your gunna walk away with a whole heart....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): I've tried it, and it didnt work, love. You will always wonder whats going on in her phone. Sometimes you get emotionally attatched without realizing it, and then when she dissapoints you, it hurts that much more because you knew it all along. Do you really want to wonder what is going on with her all the time? How long had she been seperated from her ex before she started seeing you? Dont let yourself be a rebound. Good luck.
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