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writes:I'm young, 15 to be exact, but there's this guy who is always on my mind. I've had feelings for him for maybe 4 months now, and I've never felt this way about anyone. He's cute, sweet, caring, so involved in his religion, though i'm not very religious, but something about him gives me butterflies. He's 2 years older than me, and I know I'm just another girl who's fallen for him. Even though he won't feel the same way about me, I can't seem to give up. I think I'm in love with him. It's not a stupid crush, I know it. Is it possible to be in love when you're this young? Or am I just falling hard?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2012): I think it is just most likely a crush or infatuation, since you haven't actually established any connection getting to know each other.
It just seems based on physical attraction from afar (Also known as a crush).
If you feel this way about him, maybe you should start talking to him and see how things go as friends first.
You should never say 'Never' as there's always at least a 1% chance the unlikely can occur.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (13 August 2012):
 I believe that you think you're in love, but when you grow up and discover what being "in love" really is, you'll realize that you had strong feelings, but that it wasn't true love.
Love is something that takes time to develop, it involves two people communicating openly, trusting each other, supporting each other, and so much more. I don't doubt that you are really into this guy, that you have a "puppy love" kind of feeling, but real true love is something much, much deeper.
Don't rush into relationships either. You are young and you should devote most of your time and energy into discovering who YOU are. Guys will come and go, you may think you "love" lots of people, (or maybe just a few), but don't rush away your teenage years by getting all wrapped up in guys. Focus on you, your education, your friends, your interests, and have fun just dating and getting to know people!
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (13 August 2012):
 HeyBabe23,
You ask, "I think I'm in love with him. It's not a stupid crush, I know it. Is it possible to be in love when you're this young? Or am I just falling hard?"
We are missing a vital piece of information. What have you two been doing together over the past 4 months? Have you dated? Have you hung out in the same group? Has there been any physical intimacy. Have you spent time talking together? If you are loving him from afar, it is more likely to be an infatuation rather than a love.
A better evaluation could be had with that information. As a Dad, I have to look here at the patterns and take a guess. You are 15 (sophomore), he is 17 (senior). most of what has happened between you two has happened during the summer, away from friends and peer pressure. What I see here is a summer romance with a girl wowed by the older guy. One of two things worry Dads at this stage. One he is going to get back into school with his old friends and drop her like a hot potato. Or, two, he will keep her and see how far he can get before he leaves her used and sad when he goes to college. The trouble with these two scenarios is that you describe him as religious. A truly religious guy Wont play that way.
Now I have danced around your question quite a bit, without really answering it. I did that to bring up the safety points before I give the answer. Yes, it is possible for a girl your age to be in love. Even a true lasting love. More often a strong emotional attachment, leading to love.
Just because it is possible doesn't mean that this is it. Being attracted, admiring, and feeling butterflies are not enough proof for us to say yes this is love. They are a good start. Trust and commitment and depth are needed. When you begin to feel that his happiness is important to your happiness then it is love.
So if you want to share more we can help more. For now I hope I have not offended you with my guesses.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 August 2012):
 What do you think love means?
if it means wanting to be with someone, that's part of it.
If he came to you today and said "I like this OTHER girl and I want YOU to help me be with her" what would you do or say?
I think that you have a crush.... that you don't really know him....
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