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anonymous
writes:Hi All, I apologise if this is long, I am a 35 year old woman and 1 year ago I had a few issues with a dislocated finger that needed operating on, I was referred to a surgeon and instantly I could see he was attracted (staring at me (eyes) or while I was walking away/talking to someone, flirting and spent over an hour (despite his other patients waiting). My friend who was with me also noticed, anyway, he insisted he wanted to do op. Despite, what I felt I decided that I would delay things. Months passed and I thought he would never remember me. However, he gave me special treatment compared to other patients and when I saw him again I noticed he was nervous (hands shaking) and he was staring into my eyes and winked at me as I was leaving him. I didn't flirt or look back at him. Anyway, after all his help, he told me to wait for him after op but I left as I didn't want to get hurt when I knew nothing could happen. Anyway, I left and when wound got infected and finger got infected I tried to contact him but he just ignored me - not surep if it's be use busy or just cheesed off for not waiting, Anyway, months passed and I decided to ask him for coffee (as he was nit my doc anymore) and send him a box of chocolate and card to thank him and ask him for coffee - to which he ignored. Anyway, months and months have passed since then and unfortunately, I have had issues with finger and my local doc wanted to refer me to his dep. They wrote a letter to him, but deep down I thought because of what happened (me asking him out) he would refer me to another doctor. However, I found out that he has requested for me to see him. I hope this does not sound silly, is it possible that after all this time he still likes me or wants to see me or is purely professional? Should he not have referred me to another?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 January 2014):
 agree with the others you are seeing what you want and he's just being a professional.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (8 January 2014):
 I agree with Honeypie, don't turn this into some romantic far-fetched dream sequence. It's a professional appointment, not a date. Don't embarrass yourself by thinking there's more to it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 January 2014):
 I would regard him as the professional he is and not make a Bollywood movie out of a doctor's visit.
Like Brokenv said, it's an appointment, not a date.
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (8 January 2014):
I'm going to say he is not interested. You were not his patient any longer when you asked him out. He ignored your request and didn't respond.
The doctor is seeing you out of his profession. It's not a date.
Move on.....get over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2014): Your answer is in this line :
'sent him a box of chocolate and card to thank him and ask him for coffee - which he ignored'
He may have been physically attracted to you, but your disinterest, his ethical duty and time have probably decreased his interest in you.
I would move on.
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