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writes:I have a question...its been bothering me alot. Ok back in febuary this yr...i started working with my boyfriend. I met sum of his friends and 3 are gay. I love gay men dont get me wrong. But when he sees them it seems his day gets better, like he laughs alot and is more laid back. Well he got off early and left with one of the guys... (remind u 2 of the men that are gay are together in a relationship) who is in a relationship. They went to a bar and then came back bout an hour later. He was a bit drunk but nothing unusal bout that. Well so 2 days later alot of people went to the two guys house to party. Everyone was having a good time including myself. But my man was not nxt to me at all. He was hanging out with the two men. He was in the pool having fun...but not with the guys. Hmmm...he got way to drunk and drama started...i had to leave to go get my kids and one of the guys told me he was gona try nd calm him down...and to pick him up when hes more sober to b around the kids. I agreed i didnt want my kids to see their dad wasted, so i got my kids and went to get somthing to eat. About 2 hrs later...he called me and apologized and all that. I picked him up and noticed his hair wasnt like it was. From him being in the pool...and dried after he got out...it was poofed out a bit. Yet when i picked him up it seriously looked nice and fixed. Im really starting to think now and im scared. Im pregnant with his 3rd child and dont know what i would do if he is gay. I need help...i dont wana just ask him but i dont know what else to do????? help
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): He is probably happy about seeing his friends, you are also happy after you see your friends. Trust that he is straight, or at least bisexual in the closet. He does have sex with you and has been with you for a long enough time to show how attracted he is to you. But as a heads up to your concern, I have an ex who later appeared to be if not bisexual then bicurious. His signs were that he'd work out a lot and be very into his body (diets, workouts, tight shirts that show it all, loved to walk around shirtless), he would fix his hair every 10th minute (run to a bathroom and fix it up), and to top it off he kissed my brother at a party one time. Back then I asked him if he was bi, and he was in complete denial. After the breakup however I heard from a close friend of his that now he is starting to "explore" his sexuality. But even I didn't have enought "proof" to say he was bi or gay. And you have even less.
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reader, brokeninside +, writes (13 April 2010):
 well, that really isn't gay at all. his friends who happen to be gay (note: gay guys tend to be better friends than straight ones)just helped out. that doesn't mean hes gay, sure he hangs out with them a lot, but if he really loves you he wouldn't be having surprise buttsecks with his gay friends. and to be honest, every guy has a gay side to them, whether they admit it or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): Err...i think u need a bit more evidence then the fact he has a couple of gay friends and that his hair was done. I mean its very likely that after he sobered up he sorted it out. I think ur reading too much into this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2010): I really don't take this as any kind of sign that he's gay. He left his buddies house with his hair looking a bit differently? That's just being paranoid to jump to such a dramatic conclusion over that. You need to have some more concrete evidence before you start accusing anyone of being gay. Perhaps he enjoys the company of these men because he knows he doesn't have to think of them as competition.You should sit down and talk to your man and tell him that you're feeling lonely and that you would appreciate if he would take the time to pay more attention to you. I think that you kind of developed this idea that he must be attracted to these men because you're jealous of the attention he is giving them that he is not giving to you. It's okay. Just tell him how you feel. The best thing you can do in any relationship is just be open and honest with one another.
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