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writes:It's been 8 months since my ex dumped me. I tried being friends after the break up which was a mistake and just hurt me more. Her and I are over. I kind of want to send her a message saying we can't be friends but that would be pointless. I've stopped contact with her. In the 8 months I haven't had any women interested in me or been on any dates. I want to find that special person but sometimes I feel like I should just give up on love. At least then I may start focusing on myself like I should have done right after the breakup. Is it even possible to actually give up on love?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): I think it's good that you have cut contact with your ex as this will help you to get over the relationship. It's not that you give up on love, you just need time to recover and get yourself together, so tell yourself that you are putting finding love on hold and going to concentrate on your recovery.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2009): no love is a feeling you cant help when you feel like you love someone....the heart wants what the heart wants...
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (19 November 2009):
Sure! I think plenty of us do for at least small periods of time here and there, and it's for exactly the same reason why you're feeling like you should. I think I'm on my second round of "giving up on love" within 3 years because I just don't want to deal with it right now. I have things that I need to do and I just don't want the drama. It doesn't mean that I don't want to give love a try ever again, but probably not again for at least another 6 months to a year...who knows. It's actually very empowering and I think it helps with reasurrance and self confidence in yourself. You're not depending on someone else to make you happy and you're just making yourself happy. It's a good feeling. I don't know if it's exactly giving up on love, but more like taking a break to love yourself.
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