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36-40,
*neraMyode
writes:I dated a guy for two years. I thought we were really close, and someday (in my eyes) i thought we would marry. I'm not sure what his thoughts were but i know for sure he is a commitment-phobe, but not once in the two years did i bring up marriage.Well, over the two years we had some rough times and towards the end we started bickering and every time we hung out we ended up fighting before the nights end. Also over the two years he felt as if anything he did wasn't good enough. I always nag (and i did).Our last fight was before my birthday and we got into a really big stupid fight and ended up really bad. I thought like any of our other fights it would blow over so when i called him the next day he said " i thought we talked about it and we're taking a break." i replied "we didn't talk about it what are you saying?" "well i want a break he replied and hung up.the next day he called to wish me a happy birthday and said I don't want you to think anything of this and hung up. through the week he called at my job but wouldn't answer say anything (i found that out later from him.I made the mistake of begging for him to give us another chance...he did but things weren't the same. We tried for about a month.Through all of our talks, he said I love you and i care about you a lot. Then the more we talked it changed to i love you but not like that i still care about you. The more i tried talking to him it changed to i don't love you. He wants me to get over him. When we first talked he said "i don't know what i want"On our last talk i said we both need a break and time to think. I told him that i was sorry for ever making him feel like he wasn't good enough. I told him you never know what you had until its gone and that is how i feel. But i can't stop thinking about it am trying and doing things to keep me occupied. I've done bad things and gone to his store and tried talking to him and that makes him mad. Ive tried calling him relentlessly.....But i can't get over all the times he told me he loved me, i was the one for him and that he told his mom he was serious about me! Normally i would think nothing of these little things like introducing me to his mom, but he is from a different culture where you can't even hold hands! blah. It's been two weeks since I've contacted him.My question is do you think he just needs his space? Is it possible i went too far and need to leave him be? Will he come back?
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (29 January 2010):
 Hun, nobody can say for sure if he will ever come back, but from what you have told us, sounds like he is moving on with his life.
Nobody wants a relationship where all you do is argue and fight...
So give this man his space and move on with your life.
Honeygirl
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