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writes:Hi all, 2 years ago i lost my fiance through suicide and now since the i haven't met anyone interesting, most man just wanna taste and pass and i just hate that. I just wanna know this, Im 35 years old, single and with no kids and i dont seem to meet a real man. Would it be possible for me to meet the one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2015): The best place to meet people is through an interest or even at work. You have to be open though. If you don't try to be sociable it will turn people off. Sorry to hear about your boyfriend, you needed time to grieve, it seems like you are ready to move on.
Look at what your interests are and do something extra around it. e.g. dance class, learn a language, go to the gym.
I don't believe in internet dating.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2015): I'm 37, and a female also no kids and never been married. Its hard our age these days, but I wholly believe I will meet someone in time. I know I've certainly not been give the gift of singleness as I desire too much to be with a partner. Thing is, I am starting to focus more on myself, to embrace this season of singleness, being alone, and being lonely are two aeperate things. Finding contentment and peace within yourself is a must in these times. When you find that, anything is possible!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2015): yes of course you could still meet the real one..its definately still an option.
Youmust have had a very difficult time coping with the lose of your fiancee and after such a traumatic experience i expect that you would relate well to other bereavement survivors.
I hope you had a lot of help to cope with the grief you have had to go through.
It is probably a good thing that most of the men have turned out to be just a short term thing.
You will be looking for someone compassionate and in this world at the moment that is a difficult quality to find in a person.
Perhaps volunteering in a compassionate enviroment might make you meet others with a kind and caring spirit.
The thing about suicide is that many people are unaware of the impact that it has on those left behind.
And as so many people can successfully hide their true feelings behind a happy mask of funseeking, it is often not until they are alone that the true nature of their very well hidden depression takes over.
In the moment of deepest depression they become unaware of the difficult feelings those left behind will struggle to cope with,so you are doing well to be considering looking for a deeper relationship again.
Let those that are not suitable enough for you, wean themselves away from the romance so that you are completely free to reengage in a better life.
I am sure you have much love in your heart and if you give it a bit more time then also you will meet someone else.
Dont discount the possibility of children either.
Now is the time to consider adoption as children bring great joy into your life especially in the early years, but beware ,they tend to universally put their mothers through a difficult time in teenager years and you have to be strong enough to toughen up and cope with it.
I could imagine you as a person who could adopt an abandoned or parentless little girl..but if i have got it wrong ,please forgive me.
It would be lovely if that spark of true love and happinss came back into your life again.
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