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writes:is it possible for guys to wishfully hope i fancy them?...i wonder because a lot of guys i met always fall under the impression that i fancy them for one reason or an other, i am not touchy feely i am actually quiet reserved, when it comes to personal space, but i do joke a lot and keep open dialogue.i think it is a bit pretentious of me to say that they are wishful thinking, since i am not a perfect 10 by any stretch of the imagination, i am actually a prettier on the face, wide hips and average body, nor amazing nor ugly.i just wonder why most guys have that impression, and then afterwards they try to act jerkish about it, as if they would never date someone like me, which is irritating. as i don't fancy them in the first place.does anyone have this happen to them?is it me? am i putting some sort of signal out there?help please. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni think you have a point, definitely made me think, i think it only happens because i actually care, maybe if i ignore them they will get the hint.
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (20 August 2013):
 It is possible to interact with people in such a way that they think you want to be more than just friends and yet you don't and have no idea what you could be doing to give them that impression.
Maybe you're very much more friendly than other people, or you engage more in eye contact, or you laugh and joke more than other people. Without seeing how to talk to people, it's very hard to say.
I would say it's likely that you are unknowingly doing something.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 August 2013):
 If these are people you HAVE to work with I would try and keep it professional and not personal at all. See if that changes anything.
And even if they DO think you have the hots for them (and you really don't) that is THEIR problem isn't it?
I would try not to over-analyze these guys. What they may or may not think is irrelevant, but if they make you feel uncomfortable them being friendly isn't working for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks, no definitely not texting, just chatting when i run in to them etc, it happens in close places were i have to run in to them daily like work etc...
yes it does happen very often, and i feel like i keep making the same problem gravitate towards me, and i would like it to stop happening, i don't know if i should stop been nice or what?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 August 2013):
Have you asked any of your female friends?
And honestly if a guy starts to act like a douche because he think you like him, I'd stop talking to him in a NY minute.
Does this happen often? If so I'd dial back the joking a bit and see how it goes. Though for the most part, I'd ignore it, you be you.
Nothing from the little you write makes me think that they think you have the hots for them. Maybe you just seem to run into jerks lately?
When you say open dialog, do you mean texting? If so, I'd stop texting guy you don't really know.
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