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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:This friendship is long distance, I met him in a duty mission ( GI) he did in my home town. He was stationed in Korea back then. We met two times only and it was for business. We are keeping in touch since then ( 2 years ago) non stop by email. To me he's a nice guy, he talks about family and wife, never disrespected me or his family, although he doesn't talk much about them he never said something that makes me think he's shady. I frankly don't know his wife but the pics I saw in his profiles in myspace and facebook when we added each other. I don't think she knows about me either. His kids are from previous marriage that don't live with him but visits and do talk about them a lot.They live in the US now ( like a year ago they moved) and lives across the country.My friends say is wrong and what's up with this guy with whom I write each week and says he enjoys our friendship and communications, but I don't feel is wrong. What do you think?He talks about family but not much as other people, he's reserved and say those are things he wants to keep for himself.
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reader, tux  +, writes (11 March 2009):
 Simple test for people in this situation..
If it gets to a point where you are doing something in which you'd *only* do with someone you want to date, then it's probably bad.
Simple friendships are not bad. If it is strictly platonic and does not delve into a sexual relationship of any kind, which includes mental sexual activities, then you are fine.
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reader, SlackersACE1 +, writes (11 March 2009):
Your in the green. Can't have nothing against penpals, especially war buddies. Sounds like he loves his wife and kids and doesn't have an indecent thought in his head about you. Hes a good man and your a good friend for treating his marriage delicately. It's good of you to consider his wife too, shows your a great, trust worthy family friend! Hats off my dear, keep that sensibility strong.
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reader, bd2009 +, writes (11 March 2009):
It's ok to be friends to a certain level. Once you fell that its going beyond a friendship i think you should stop because how would you if you were the wife?
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