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writes:16 yrs of age. My bf and I are dating for almost 2 yrs. We are in a long distance relationship. We opened a topic via texting about anything no malice no green mindedness,we talked about our pleasures. We're both virgins, and he ended up with a favor, He wants to touch my boobs. I told him that I can do his favor if we are already married. He said, ok forget it, no more touching, kissing, and overreacted. I told him, it's not what I meant, It's just its too early and I thought it might lead to sex. I know it's a pleasurable feeling,and I don't know what would happen if I let him do it. What should I do? Should I let him, if he asked me a favor again? Pls. help. Thanks.
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reader, aresu  +, writes (10 August 2011):
 I would say that.... No, is not okay, and for several reasons:1. You both are very young and should not be doing it anyway.2. Is a long distance relationship, so it Will most likely wont last long. You would regret it if you let him, when maybe in a couple of months later you Will break up.3. I cant tell you enough how very very unlikely is that he is serious about this relationship, at that age boys dont care about that, they only want sexual favors, the way he acts just fuels this probability, as he already made a fit because you didnt want. In fact, he may even have other girls to who is asking the same thing, you wouldnt know, because you are in a long distance relationship, and there is nothing stoping him.4. He is not respectful to you and he already showed his true colors. That fit he made like a spoiled brat who cant get what he wants is just his way of blackmailing you, he is trying to make you feel bad about it, so you let him. Dont do it!! So all in all, i think that you should not let him, is not worth it. I wish you luck in whatever you choose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2011): If its not what you want then don't allow it, but it doesn't always have to lead to sex. It can be nice to get to know each others bodies without the threat of intercourse. Clothes don't even have to come off.
And to be honest, long distant relationships don't always work . You are both young, so being completely honest a guy (if the same age as you, or even not) may well decide to look elsewhere instead. BUT that does not mean you should give in and let him, instead talk about it and explain how you feel about the situation. And if you have completely different views then perhaps you need to consider finding someone who feels the same.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 August 2011):
 if you have to ask the answer is no...
at your age LDRs are too hard
have you met? if not... don't fret on this...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2011): hii...
well, really, this is a question that nobody else can answer but you. they're your boobs, after all. hahaa. when i was your age, i was wrestling with this same question. in the end, i DID let the boy touch my boobs...and aside from kissing, nothing else ever happened between us. really, you just kind of have to ask yourself if you're ready to take a step like that. even though it's just one little touch, it's actually a pretty big deal...because like you said, there's always the possibility of it leading to sex. however, you can control whether it actually DOES lead to sex or not. just decide what your limits are going to be, and stick with them. and don't ever let anyone force you to do anything that you're uncomfortable with. ")
good luck, and God bless,
~sarsar~
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 August 2011):
 If this is a LDR he must have really, really long arms!
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