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writes:I have a girlfriend of two years that I love with all my heart. We are two hours apart (me being at school, her being a hairdresser) and are constantly on the phone. Little bits here and there and longer conversations during the night that can last two hours. While I do love talking to her, I easily get frustrated talking so long on the phone. I've told her about this but I can tell she feels differently. At home she has few friends and spends little time with them, the majority of the time she spends watching T.V. waiting for me to call. This puts huge amounts of pressure on me because I have tons of friends here that I would like to be able to spend some time with too and I feel like I am being the only one she puts effort into. Plus I feel bad when I do something because she is just sitting at home. Is it O.K. to want some space or if I really love her, should I be wanting to talk to her as much she does me? Reply to this Question
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reader, kellyxxx  +, writes (26 March 2009):
 Me and my boyfriend are in a similar situation, I wait for him to call and text. When he needs time to himself I feel neglected! If you really love her then you should want to talk to her, not go out with friends! You should commit your time to her, sh's the one who is devoted and waiting for you! X
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): do you see a married couple spending every second together? no because it would never work. people do things separetly have work , own social rings to attend.
its natural to want to have your own fun, your own friends why not encourage her to go out a bit more? get her to sign up to some kind of club or group.arrange things apart you know what they say absence makes the heart grow fonder. Would give you something more to talk about as well when you do meet up.
you have nothing to feel guilty about just because you have more things in your life. Don't let your gf make you feel bad about it you only have to worry when you don't want any time with her at all.
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