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reader, shytaz1971  +, writes (10 July 2011):
shytaz1971 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you all for the advice and words of wisdom. I am very glad that you took the time to read my question and answer it.
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reader, shytaz1971 +, writes (10 July 2011):
shytaz1971 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI let this person know up front that I am shy and I think some of the issue is I am not attracted to the person. I did want to give some time but I'm really getting uncomfortable and it really is the rude comments and innuendoes. I think the comments have put up an even higher wall. I am willing to show affections physically but I am upfront and just ask the person to show patience. I am concerned when they start saying and pushing things right off the bat.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (9 July 2011):
 Sure it is ok to stop seeing someone. But, let them know WHY.
If you feel uncomfortable with physical touch, you may find it harder to have a relationship. Men DO like to hug, kiss, caress, etc.
You never have to do anything you are not comfortable with, but best to let folks know up front that you are shy about affection/talkng about sex unless you reach a certain stage.
Whatever those standards are for you, make sure others are clear about it.
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reader, shytaz1971 +, writes (9 July 2011):
shytaz1971 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was hoping I had the correct gut feeling. I really appreciate your responses. I make things very clear when I date someone that certain things make me uncomfortable. I have found that some people think they know better. So Thanks again you have really helped me trust my gut in these situations.
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reader, shytaz1971 +, writes (9 July 2011):
shytaz1971 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answer. I just was not sure about the dating situation at all and wanted to make sure I was not jumping the gun.
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reader, sammy1986  +, writes (9 July 2011):
of course its ok do not be pushed into doing something you don.t want to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2011): Yes, it is ok. In fact simply not wanting to date some anymore is reason enough. You don't need 'valid' reasons that everyone else would agree with.
If you don't want to see him anymore, for any reason, then don't.
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reader, shytaz1971 +, writes (9 July 2011):
shytaz1971 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am really shy and timid talking about sex and the sexual nature of many statements are really overwhelming. I have just started meeting people and I want to continue to meet people. This pressure and constant sexual innuendo is causing some difficulties in my very personal personal life.
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