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writes:Whilst I realise several of us may have done this would you all be honest especially men who might reply and say the truth - if someone has just met someone else on holiday during a two week break - is it wise to sleep with them or would they probably think I was an easy lay. Is it normally best to hold back for sex if one can.I would rather have a truthful answer rather than spare ny feelings. I am female aged 43Thanks
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reader, lexilou +, writes (2 July 2008):
 It depends if you want a lasting relationship or a quickie!!! As I was with my first hubbie from 15 to 32 I was quite old when I had my first one night stand. Nothing to write home about I can tell you but it wasnt my last. I wasnt ready for a real relationship but I got horny so occasionally did this. I also had (at separate times) 2 shag buddies as I was alone, expect for 2 short term failed relationships, through choice til I met my 2nd husband after 4 years of being single.
So if you want to, next time go for it, but if you think he is the one make him wait. And always always always insist on a condom x
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didnt do it but wish I had!!! The thing that put me off was he told a couple he had only just met that he was trying to get me into bed and wanted to and it was said so I could hear it all!!!! I felt that was a bit below the belt.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (2 July 2008):
 Well who cares what he thinks, he is your easy lay.
In sex its not always the woman who is conquered a man can be, either way i wouldnt care, sex is sex
If both parties are single, unattached, legal and willing there is no issue.
(Though you know this a condom should be used)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): I think its ok if you use protection, are single, and that you do it for the right reasons. Some people would say there aren't right reasons for this but there are definately wrong reasons. If it's just a fling, both parties know this and are happy with this, then I think its ok if thats what you want to do. Sexuality is freedom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): I wouldn't say it's particularly wise, you've no idea of their history - or they yours for that matter. A condom would be a definite pre-requisite if ever I went down that road. Holding back? Well, what's the point if you're going to have sex anyway? You'd just be delaying things a little.
As for the 'easy lay' bit - if you're an easy lay so is he. What's good for one is good for the other.
If I didn't love my partner as much as I do, or my relationship with her was as low as it could get without actually going our separate ways I might consider it, but only if I thought I could live with the deceit and not feel so guilty I that had to tell her all about it to relieve my conscience.
If you're both single and otherwise unattached then why not? Life is for living and we only come this way once. Life isn't a rehearsal so get out and enjoy it - but not if it means destroying anyone's trust and respect for you or an otherwise happy relationship.
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