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writes: isit ok to have sex when your 14? i know im under age but i would like to have some teenage advice about it Reply to this Question
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reader, AskGeorgina +, writes (1 November 2006):
Hi there babes. Just thought id reply to ur dilemma.I lost my virginity at 14 and believe me I now wish I had waited. Im not going to lecture u but as a single young mum of 2 I will tell u that if u do decide to have sex please please use protection because its not only unplanned pregnany that can happen, there r alot of sexully transmitted diseases out there. Only have sex when u r 100% ready dont feel pressurised to do anything u dont want 2 do. When u feel totally comfortable and feel that its the right time with the right person only then u will be happy. I am not advising u 2 go and have sex at ur age but ur not a baby now u r becoming a young lady and u r learning to make ur own decisions but once again please just be careful and be happy. Take care babes. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006): it isnt advisable
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2006): dont have sex wait. it will make you feel better about urself. i am 17yrs old and i am a virgin. but i have lots of friends who have done it and no matter who u are if people find out they are going to talk and spread rumors that arent true!!!!!so just think real hard b4 u do it if u do deside to then be sfe dont make a mistake!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2006): okay so here's some questions u should ask urself before you should have sex, and if u can answer all of them truthfully with a yes. then more the power to you cause no body i know ur age can!
1.) If you get pregnant are you ready to take responsiblity and raise a child? or are you ready to give the child up for adoption? (i strongly disagree with abortion so i'm not going to ask you that. it's murder in my book)
2.) Is the guy worth it? (is he really the person that u want to give ur "special gift" to? okay so i know that sounds dumb, but think about it. Do you love the guy enough to kno every inch of you or do you just want the sex?)
3.) Is the guy going to be ready to support you and a child if one came? Would he drop out of school just to get money for you two?
4.) Are you going to be ready for the physical and mental and emotional hurt that will come with this experience? (i'm not saying that you two won't stay together cause i have no idea how much your love is. but just think about that.)
5.) Are you prepared to give away that part of your heart? (i was once told that everytime you have a very close boyfriend, or you have sex with someone that that person will get a part of your heart. and everytime you do it with a new person you're give away more and more of your heart. then once you do get married, you will constatly be comparing him to the "others" and you'll have memories of other guys while with your husband. and no matter how much you love your husband, he will only get that last remander of your heart because you can't get it back once you've given it out.)
6.) Is it your decision? (what i mean is, is he forcing you or is it you that want it? cause either way it needs to be a mutual agreement, not just one forcing the other.)
7.) Could you live with an STD?
okay, i'm going to stop now. here are some very important questions that i believe u need to consider before going into this. this is a HUGE decision. i wish you the best of luck with all that comes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2006): The law says you can't have sex til your 16 because you legally can't give your concent has never stopped thousands of teengers doing it anyway. Not that I personally condone it. But maybe you should wait til you are a few years older and in a loving relationship, you don't want to end up tied down with kids, single and struggling for money, do you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2006): is it ok to have sex when you are 14 - according to the law it is not, but real life situations are make it difficult to always abide by the law.
I am now 22, I lost my virginity when I was 15yrs and 7months old. I was in a relationship my boyfriend was also 15, we had been together for 4 months at the time, and were together for 5years in total.
He was my first serious boyfriend. In many ways I think it was the right thing to do, we loved each other, we used protection and practised safe sex. Though on the other hand I wish we had waited a while longer as looking back, we were together for a long time anyway and even though I felt grown up at the time I know I wasnt really. I think having sex made me feel grown up and its good to feel like a child when you are a child, you have the rest of your life to be responsible - dont feel i a rush to grow up enjoy your teenage years while u have them!
I think having sex also made me feel commited to myboyfriend of the time, and lets face it, many first relationships, or relationships that start when weare young rarely last. So when u do split up u feel more hurt knowing that u got so involved. It took me a long time to get over my first bofriend and its harder to get ver when you are very young. I know if I split up with a partner now i would be able to cope much easier as u think slightly differently as u get older.
Just think about it before u do anything, dont rush, and there are other things you can do..not just penetrative sex.
be safe and consider all aspects, and dont forget about pregnancy, xx
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (23 October 2006):
 According to the law you are underage. The law is there to protect us from being taken advantage of and should be listened to. However, I am aware that very few people take any notice of this law and many people do have sex before they are 16.
I guess it depends on the circumstances. Your partner, for example. If it's your boyfriend who's your age, you may think you're both ready to have sex (although, at 14, this is most definitely not true). Whereas, if he was say, 40, that would be unacceptable.
If you feel you are ready to have sex, talk to someone before you do it. Find out if you really are ready and you know what to do to protect yourself etc. You might decide it's not time yet and wait longer. Find someone you trust, or a counsellor and talk to them about how you are feeling. There's no point in rushing into this, it's a massive decision and something you'll remember forever.
If you want more advice, please email me more details and I'll get back to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2006): no it is not okay to have sex under 16.
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