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writes:I have been dating someone for over 2 months now and things are relatively well. He asked for us to get tested for stds because he wants to go off condoms. Is it ok for me to ask for us to be dating exclusively?? I do not not know if he's dating other people....
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (22 November 2010):
 I agree with Quiet-Echo. Establish a relationship first, then testing for STDs and some kind of protected sex if you're not using condoms.
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 This is your life and you sure don't want to catch any STD if he wants to get off the condom than your in your right to ask to be exclusive. Don't gamble with your life be safe.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (22 November 2010):
Just 1 tip, for HIV, it won't be detected until 3 months afterwards, I believe. So you want to wait for 3 months since the last time either of you last had sex with someone else to get tested for that. And in the meantime not have sex with anyone but each other, and not take the condoms off. That's to be extra careful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo be perfectly honest, I'm very confused about dating rules...I do expect exclusivity with this man...I'm starting to really like him...I'm looking for a relationship...not just sex
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 Ok? Of course it's ok! Why wouldn't it. Its actually something expected. If he wants to go off condoms the least he can do is be exclusive!
Why would it not be ok? Do you want to be in a relationship with him, or do you just want the sex? I think it's necessary to be exclusive in the relationship if condoms are coming off!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 November 2010):
 Yes it is perfectly ok for you to ask this, if he is wanting to get sti tests and come of condoms then you have a right to ask him to be exclusive with you. Goodluck.
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