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writes:I need some advice. I'm kinda in a state of confusion, I already no what I should do, I just need to hear from someone else. In May my boyfriend and I will be together for 5 years, we have a 3 1/2 year old little boy. I don't want to get maried right away but I want an engagement ring. When I bring it up he gets pissed and says Im not ready for that kind of commitment but then on the other hand tells me how much he loves me and wants to be a family. He gives me everything that I want, just not a ring. I told him that after 5 years and he has not bought a ring that I was leaving. Is it bad of me to walk out on 5 years or should I suck it up? Reply to this Question
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reader, jellybeans +, writes (20 April 2009):
It's not normal, not at all. You should have asked for a ring way earlier than that. especially when you have a 3.5 yr old kid with him already.
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reader, wette460 +, writes (20 April 2009):
ABSOLUTELY NOT! I'm a guy and I'll be the first to say it. Your man needs to commit. So many guys out there are afraid to commitment and it really chaps my ass. GROW A PAIR GENTLEMEN!! After 5 years and a 3 1/2 year old it's time to shit or get off the pot. Make sure you follow through with it if he still gives you the runaround (which it sounds like he probably will). If you actually, physically leave and not talk to him for a while, he will wise up and come back to you singing a new tune, I promise!
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (20 April 2009):
 You know what you deserve.
And he already revealed how he feels about you "I'm not ready for that kind of commitment."
It would be different if he couldn't afford a ring, but he hasn't said that that was the case.
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