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writes:Iv been in a relationship for 5 months now and never been happier.But recently i have found myself thinking and somwtimes dreaming about my ex alot. Not thoughts of wanting to be back with him, but kind of happy memories and times we spent together. I kind of miss him in a way but not as attraction, just a friend. I broke off our relationship about 10 months ago because i felt we had drifted apart and the relationship had ran its course, we had been together for 2 years and he was my first boyfriend. We both moved on.I see him around at alot of 21st's because all my friends from when we were together are turning 21 this year and it kind of makes me sad to see him because even tho we didnt work and never would i miss him.I love the guy i am with now and couldsnt see myself with anyone else. Is this normal? Any opinions appreciated :)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 September 2010):
It's normal to think of the good times that you had with someone else, even an ex. Especially if the break up wasn't nasty. So yes, it's natural.
But it's also a sign that you probably need to put more effort into your current relationship. You don't want to find yourself becoming so nostalgic that you find yourself drifting away from your new boyfriend. Focus on your new relationship, and make sure that the memories of your ex just remain memories.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2010): yes, it is normal, but you need to control you thoughts
and concentrate on your current bf, don't ruin your life.
i used to do that, but i heard dr. phil says that it is wrong, i can't remember the episode, but it was about 2 years ago.
anyway stop yourself whenever you have these thoughts and try to replace it with thoughts about you current bf, and think of ways to refresh your love life with your bf, go to trip do something new
good luck
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reader, Kenj +, writes (21 September 2010):
 I think your feelings are perfectly normal. I still think of my ex's even though moved on several years. I still love them in a way just not in love with them as I thought I was at the time. Its a different kind of love if that makes any sense?
Just focus on what you have now in your new relationship and invest in your own future as you will be spending the rest of your life there!
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