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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:This is kind of long, basically the whole story and then the questions at the end.When school started this year, I met an amazing girl in my art class. Nearing the end of october, we began going out, and everything has been asolutely amazing. But lately, she is hanging out with a new group of friends, and I like them too, so I was fine with that. But then one of the guys she hangs out with, keeps telling her how much he likes her, and how beautiful she is, and its making me very jealous and paranoid because she talks about him and that group of friends constantly, even though she tells me im the only one she wants. I feel left out in most of the conversations with them, because they all seem to be about drugs and alcohol, and that really isnt my thing. My girlfriend always said 'I think getting high is something i'd like to try, but I respect you a lot, so Im not going to do it.' Of course, I could tell there was always tension then, and I felt I was holding her back, so I said 'I cant make your decisions for you, you know how I feel about it, so you do what you want to.' Yesterday, its all she'd talked about doing, and last night she finally did. I know just about everyone does this, and it shouldnt be such a big deal, but its really not a scene I want to be in, and i thought she'd be the one person who felt that way to. Also, aside from that, I wanted to wait till a special moment, like new years with fireworks and music and blahblahblah to tell her I loved her, and we both discussed that we couldnt wait that long, we knew what we felt, and would say it when the moment is there, but I feel as if I ruined it by telling her to wait in the first place. I know this was long, but I'll get to the point now. My questions are; Is it normal to be so jealous, even when my girlfriend says she couldnt imagine being with anyone else? Am I crazy for being so upset that she wants to get high now, even though tons of other people do it? And just overall, what should I do about it? I've told her how I feel, and im sensitive so I tend to get really emotional. I dont want to feel clingy or whiney.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2009): u are not crazy,and it is normal.i mean u want to feel like ur the only guy for her actions are much bigger then words..she can say something but she has to mean it by action.maybe she just doesnt know.shes into stuff u arnt i'm not saying its a good thing but i think u should hang out wit ur friends and give her a little space i dont think shes ready for anything like this
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