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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:me and my ex recently got back together,after 2 and a half months of no contact ( my choice) he called me one day and told me that he still loves me and misses me alot and if he can have another chance, i agreed! since we have been back together he tell me that he missed me but i never tell him that i missed him he tells me that he loves me and i ask him why he says that i am his "baby", what ever that means but the thing is i never tell him that i love him. i never call him, only texted him today for the first time to ask him if he was feeling better than this morning ( he is getting the flu) but he did not reply, he does all the calling and he has been over every night since we have been back together and if you are wondering we only had sex once ever since we have been back together, and we do show each other affection as we used to before we broke up.my question is, is it normal for me to act this way?
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reader, FireAndIce  +, writes (3 November 2009):
Sadly, it IS normal. The big mistake couples make after breaking up and getting back together is thinking that things will be the same as they once were. This is hardly ever the case. You are both in different head spaces now. When you're with someone, you experience alot of things together. When you break-up, you have experiences which don't include that other person anymore.
Things inevitably change, either for the better or for the worse.
Maybe you should both acknowledge that things aren't the way they used to be and instead of trying to pick up where you left off, start over from scratch.
Get to know eachother all over again.
And have you spoken about the reasons for the break-up? Because if that's still hanging over your head then it's likely you're both tiptoeing around eachother and around the issue.
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