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writes:The guy that I am currently dating is 22 years old and is a virgin. I asked him why but he just said that he doesn't know. He told me that he has three girls before. I am wondering if he lied to me about that. Is it normal for him to still be a virgin? Even tho it is not because he is choosing to wait till marriage? I am wondering if there is something wrong with him? I just don't know what to think. Sure I am glad that he is, but why is he?
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reader, PoohDenTheatre +, writes (8 March 2011):
 Back when I was 21 it was only a couple of girls that I had ever made out with(mutual masturbation) I admitted to a Japenese girl that I hadn't sex yet and she asked me if I masturbate a lot and responded to her with a timid "Yes". I was embarrassed for the fact someone attractive like myself hadn't had my penis in a vagina. Long term viginity causes compulsive masturbation in men. Even after I started having sex at 26 years old I didn't stop masturbating. The last time I had sex was when I was 31 now I'm 35 and feel like the masturbating virgin I was once was.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2008): I can relate to your boyfriend I think. I'm 20 and I've "hooked up" with a number of girls, but I just never felt the urge to go all the way so to speak. None of my friends would believe me if I told them I was a virgin, and frankly I don't really know why I haven't just done it when the opportunities have arisen.Getting back to your question, I have no idea if its normal or not but its not necessarily a bad thing. I don't know your boyfriend, maybe he is lieing, but telling someone your a virgin isn't something a guy does lightly, especially if he is someone who you would assume wasn't a virgin just by looking at them. If you're really curious, ask him why, keep your bullshit meter running, but don't let negative assumptions cloud your jusgement.
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (10 November 2008):
 22? That's not especially late. My friend Dave was 26 before he lost his, he wasn't putting it off until marriage, he was an attractive guy, it just hadn't happened and he didn't stress too much about it. He just said that when he was ready, he'd know it. Then he met Amy and he knew it and there you are.
Why would you think there's something wrong with your boyfriend just because he's still a virgin? You say you're glad that he is. Well there you go, that's all you need.
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reader, ez4u2say +, writes (10 November 2008):
Very rare but it can be a good thing. If he is very religious it makes sense. If not then he may just be embarrassed because he has no clue what to do. Find a way to inspect the package lol. Accidentally go into bathroom while he's taking shower. But seriously you have to get him to answer those reasons and you must make him feel comfortable enough to do that by letting him know no matter what you will understand.
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