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writes:Hello, I was wondering if someone could help me out with a couple of questions since I don't date much.1) Is it normal if the girl I'm seeing doesn't want to kiss or be kissed in every single date? (Assuming the date was a GOOD one.) I mean when you have a good date but you don't get too romantic. When we say goodbye its just a kiss on the cheek. Is this normal? I had the idea that you end up the date kissing/making out a bit in every date you have?!! We've dated 5 times in month and a half.2) So this same girl I'm seeing... My friends told me that if I don't ask her to be my girlfriend soon, she will get bored that I'm not making a move relationship-wise. I still want to date her but casually, get to know her better. They say that she could get bored and find herself another guy. Ladies and gents too, is this true for the majority of girls? After a few dates a girl assumes you have to ask her to be her boyfriend?I'm from Latin America so the custom here is to ask her such a question to formalize the relationship. Something that I'm not quite ready to do. I thought we could keep on dating a couple more months but my friends insist she will move on to another guy if I don't hurry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for both your responses. I haven't made up my mind if I want to be serious with her right now. I definitely don't want to be pressured into a relationship, so I guess the best thing now is to talk it openly with her. Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): 1) Yes thats perfectly normal, the most important thing is that you talk during every date, as long as you give each other a peck at the end of the date. The making out comes later, when you both feel comfortable alone in each others company.2) Its fine listening to your friends advice, but you need to do whats right for both of you. Well if the girl does want a relationship usually by the fifth date, she will have an idea of where it is going, whether its casual or serious. So if she sees that its just casual for you but she wants it to be serious, then yes she will move on.You need to find out what she wants and compare it to what you want. But most importantly if you want to be casual and you are not ready for a relationship be honest with yourself and don't feel pressured into having a relationship. Then be honest with the girl and move on.Good Luck.x
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (2 June 2011):
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And your freinds are right. She will start to feel like she is there to just amuse you untill you finally say yes she's worth it, or something better comes along. I wouldn'y hang around either, or kiss and make out with a guy who doesn't even want a relationship. If you just want to be with someone casually, then be with somene who wants that too, this girl is saving herself for the right man, not just making out with anyone for the sake of it. so unless you DO want to loose her, I would make it offical or move on. She is not toy, she is a women with feelings, so what are you going to do about it?
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