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writes:wanted some advice from the guys on here. well i slept with my boyfriend last night for the first time. i've been with him for about two months now. When I woke up he was on top of me and trying to have sex again, i don't know what he had been doing whilst I slept. Is this in any way normal for you guys? Reply to this Question
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reader, Yos  +, writes (25 May 2007):
 For him to do this when you've only just started sleeping together not normal. Not only is it not normal, it's totally unacceptable, and would even be considered by some as attempted rape.
You need to set some sexual boundaries with this guy, and quickly. And especially be careful with yourself, don't trust too fast until you know he respects you and understands your basic personal limits.
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (25 May 2007):
I wouldn't say it is normal, but I wouldn't say it is uncommon.
What many couples forget to do is set boundaries. The "Do's" and "Do Not's".
Explain to him that without your consent it is rape. There are some women who may like being woken up like that, but I bet they're a tiny minority, and that the fantasy is more of a guy thing.
So, sit him down and present your list of what is acceptable in sex and what is not. If he is unreasonable, then you probably need to reevaluate your relationship with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2007): my ex did this to me once. i thought it was really erotic, but he had woken me up with kisses before he did anything else.
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