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writes:Is it normal for a man to get angry at his girlfriend of almost one year for not liking anal? I told him that I didn't like it while we were doing it and he insisted that we continue because I was only lying that it hurt so that he would think I am a 'good girl'. Reply to this Question
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reader, confused dee  +, writes (10 February 2009):
if he cant respect you in that way then i guess you deserve someone else who will be understanding and care about how you feel.
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reader, JustMeHere  +, writes (10 February 2009):
I agree with a lot of these responses...It really does not matter what is considered normal in todays society, sex is something that is personal to you and it can't be generalised. Its good that you were open minded and tried something new, but if you don't like it your boyfriend should respect that. If he really loved you he would thank you for trying it, and then respect you opinion not to do it again.I hope you can work things out. All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): We ladies all agree.. this man is abusive, you should leave him. He's not wrong to ask for anal sex, and your not wrong to try. But it hurts, you don't like it, he shouldn't get angry, he should thank you for trying. This guy sounds like a very nasty abusive rapist. I fear that he tries to hurt you and say horrible things to make you sad. Leave him please, only sick men act like this.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (9 February 2009):
 What a creep!
Dump him, you deserve someone who respects you. He has no right to force you to have anal... that would be rape.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): ditch him, thats no way to treat a woman! if he respected you he would have stopped when you said that it hurt and you did not like it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): Tell him if he likes it so much,you will buy a strap-on(make sure is big) and do him up the bum.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (9 February 2009):
 Ohhh what a nasty guy, why are you still with him, if my boyfriend did that after i said no he would not be my bf for much longer. He doesnt seem to respect you i think you deserve better then this find someone who will respect you
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (9 February 2009):
whoa you told him you didn't like it, but he continued! he has no respect for you and that is bordering on the lines of rape. if you told him to stop, he should have stopped! he sounds like a right asshole! you would be far better off without him. he does not respect you and he probably never will. ditch him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2009): Who cares what is normal, he disrespected your feelings about it and if you don't want him to do that, he needs to stop it right then. I think you have every right to be creeped out by his good girl thing.....if this sexual act is so important to him and you don't like it, then ask him if this is a dealbreaker for him because it is for you and then break up with him.....seriously....you don't have to like it, a lot of women don't like it and doctor's will tell you it is unsafe, no matter how careful you are, the anus is meant to be an exit not an entrance. Over time you can even get to a state where you cannot control your bowels due to the anus being damaged.....and there are more medical reasons against it....but some don't care about this.
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reader, 2dareANDdream +, writes (9 February 2009):
 I dated a guy who wanted me to do that. I replied " I am a female I have a vag that's what sex if for. If you want anal go get a guy". A few weeks later, we broke up he went gay! Nice right.. Guys like to " try" things out.. But thats pushing it. I am uncomfortable with that and did it once and had a horrible expiernce. I wont ever do it again and I stick to answer..
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