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writes:im 15 and my gfs 14 were in the same year and we were going town with some friends yesterday and she was wearing a belly top shorts and converse i didnt want her to wear it but i didnt say nout wen we got to town mmy bestmate was just staring at her so i kissed her and he looked away she was a bit annoyed with me because i hert her wrist it was an accident but she was upset anyway i was getting annoyed with my bestmate gorping at her and i asked her to put my hoodie on she did but it didnt make any difference and later on when she went to get a drink i asked her why was she such an attention grabber she said she wasnt and walked of tearful i felt bad and said sorry she just hugged and kissed me but when we got back we went out and my bestfriend just kept staring and i asked her to go home and put some other chlothes on but she didnt want to and got annoyed again so i said if she didnt i was going to break up with her and she just took my hoodie of and threw it at me and started screaming at me and then just ran home crying i went and appoligisied but i feel theres like this distance in our relationship now is it my fault or hers ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Molly0102  +, writes (23 January 2011):
No its not your fault. Guys won't like their mates staring at their girls. STARRING. But then again, be more open about what she wears. She wears what she likes and if guys are looking at her so be it. If you tell her not to wear that, it just seems like you're being controlling and girls won't like that. But the thing here is not about what she wears but rather how you guys are communicating. She becoming tearful, running away? It's kind of dramatic for such incidents. I'd expect any normal girl to just get pissed and not cry and run away. And you mentioned repeatedly that your bestmate kept staring at her. Sit down and have a good, honest talk with her. Of course be tactful about what you say. Good luck.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (23 January 2011):
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its a mixture of her fault because she doesn't realise that wearing next to nothing will make lads stare at her and it will make you feel jealous, (or maybe she does know!) its a bit your fault for getting jealous and demanding that she cover up or break up and its your mates fault for blatantly staring at her.
some men love it when their girl dresses sexy and other men look at her,so these are men that can handle being with a girl who likes to show her figure off. other men (like yourself) absolutely hate it, so they are happier going out with a girl who prefers to cover herself up. so you can understand that what you have is a 'clash of personalities' between you and your girl, yes?
you need to realise though that just because she dresses this way it doesn't mean she will cheat on you, although the attention from other guys must be something she likes to boost her confidence. i can tell you this because i was the same way when i was her age and it always used to cause trouble between me and my boyfriend at the time. he didn't understand my feelings about it and i didn't understand his
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