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female
age
30-35,
*rynne
writes:My boyfriend and I have been going out for awhile now and we spend the entire week together cos we attend the same school. But recently, we fought because I saw his ex-girlfriend blog, writing stuffs about him and that he is still contacting her. I asked the question alot of times, "are you still contacting her?" and he will look straight in my eye and said, "NO, i have not." I chose to believe him.On the later part of the day that we fought, he asked for a break up. I was working at that time and it totally hit on me that he will never ask for a break up. He told me he could not stand the way I treat him and that I don't appreciate the things that he does for him. I was speechless, because I told him i love him with all my heart and that how could I not be appreciative? But still, he stayed adamant of breaking up with me.This part is about his ex girlfriend: They were in relationship for the past 3 years. They had a fight and the girl eventually cheated on him and went to another guy. My ex bf, was of course dissapointed because he thought she was his 'first true love'. But after breaking up with the guy that she went out with, she "came" back to him and wanted to start afresh(when he is already with me)Over the past few days after he iniated the break up, I am confused. Because I don't know whether the problem lies in me or he still can't forget his ex-gf. One minute he told me that he could not stand my attitude towards him, and in another minute, he said he still care and dont want his ex-gf to "waste" her life. But what about me? Doesn't I need care from him too? He messaged me yesterday saying, "I rather go through this alone, im sorry i have not been true to you all this while, i still care for her" :(I don't know what I am supposed to do. A part of me tells me to still wait for him, cos he told me "he still love me, he doesnt love his ex-gf, but CARE for her" And another part of me tells me to leave the love triangle and lost in the battle call love. He has been also giving me the cold shoulders, refusing to talk to me and even meeting me, because I want to talk things out, and not saying it in mobile messages. A friend of mine told me that I will lose if i keep persevering in this love. Afterall, a 3 years relationship and a 3 months relationship cannot be at all compared. This made me lost hope and even thinking of giving up on life..Tell me what I should do..because all I can do now is cope inside my bedroom, thinking of the memories I had with him, and cry...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): He's still in love with the ex which leaves little room for your relationship. Looks like you were rebound girl and no amount of love for him is going to change that situation. I'd find a guy that is emotionally available to you, your friends are right. Sorry.
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