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anonymous
writes:I'm 17 years old and have found out that too much of a good thing can be bad.I had a 27 year old GF that had a crazy apatite for sex.She would engage me sexually every time we met(always at her place) and we would have a lot of rough,hard sex for hours until we were too tired too move.It was starting to get kind of old but still OK.One day due to luck,school was canceled for the week and I made plans to stay at her place.I did so and my life became a living hell.While many would think I am lucky,they are mistaken.The human body was not designed 24/7 sex and having so much sex can be detrimental to one's physical,mental and emotional health.We had sex non-stop and on the fourth day my penis refused to stand upright.We got into a big fight,she wanted sex and I wanted a goddamn break!We broke up that day.The next day my conscience got the best of me as I was also quite rash and did not do everything to solve the matter peacefully.So I walk to her house and am ready to knock on the door but I hear some noises inside.I open the door(it was unlocked) and went towards the bedroom and guess what I saw,my replacement.Only one day,ONE DAY and she found someone else!I was disgusted and saw through her that instant to what I was so blind to before,she was a whore.It's her lose,I guess.I was so tired of sex that I vowed not to have sex at least until I get married.This was a serious vow as I was sexually active from a young age and sleapt with countless women(mostly MILFs) and had a very dirty past.Anyways,now that you have a bit of my back story,on to the part about the minor.There is a cute 12 year old girl that lives next door.I knew her since she was in diapers,we've been great friends for years and I have acted like sort of big brother to her and she like a little sister.This is an especially nice experience since we are both only children.I protect her from the neighborhood bullies,teach her about the world and help guide her.She comforts me with her sweet,charming and innocent personality.She is innocent in every sense of the word.She never had sex,kissed,held hands or even sworn!She is brought up in a traditional christian family and has been home schooled,dresses modestly and acts feminine-in a little girly way that is.Lately she has been spending much more time with me and goes out of her way to be with me.Her parents think it's kinda cute,as do I.But I know that despite her innocent mind,she subconsciously wants me.I have been with many women and picking up on this thing is second nature to me.One day when we were in her parents' garden we went to an area planted with many flowers of different bright colors surround by trees and bushes that blocked out the outside world and created a sort of sanctuary.It was her parents' idea that she should have somewhere calming to go to when she get's stressed so they made this retreat just for her.We laid down together facing the sky and by chance,our hands met.It was awkward at first but we got comfortable and started talking.Eventually we got closer and closer until we were embracing each other and looking into deeply into each others eyes.She was blushing and breathed uneasily,even though my dirty history I couldn't help but do the same,I felt just like the inexperienced and scared virgin I was at 11.I made the first move and and slowly advanced my head.Our lips met and we lost track of time enjoying each others company through that one kiss.From that day on we went back to the sanctuary every occasion we got did nothing but hug and kiss.It felt great!There was no sex but I felt the sensation there is which I never once before experienced:love!Her parents get along with me great,but have been giving me subtle looks as they suspect something.Not that fact that I'm with her,I'm always with her with her I like it or not haha,just the fact that the girl and I seem to be acting differently around one another.The parents sometimes come into the grove to check up on us with the pretext of their homemade lemonade,which is delicious BTW.This can't go on forever without discovery so I must take action and do something,but I want that something to be with this girl,the only person I ever loved.I'm nervous about her parents.Even though they treat me like their own son I fear they might make a 180.I heard many horror stories of young couples,close in age but on opposite sides of the consent line with the older one being arrested and life ruined and put on the sex offenders list,and it was all because the parents did not like their child's choice in partner or simply their child being in a relationship.There may be no sex,but I'm still very worried.I really want to be with her!We have talked about getting married someday and not have "martial relations"(she doesn't know much about sex) until we get married,this is a serious relationship we want!I want to date her publicly and be able to show affection with her parents knowledge and be able to go out with her and do ordinary non-sexual things young couples do.I don't care about social stigma,I am a hardened man that has done many controversial things in public whether by free will or lost bets,so I am desensitized to disapproval-that is not my concern.I am concerned purely about the legal aspect.I apologize for the TL;DR,but this was necessary in giving you all the facts.Question:Is it legal in Canada to kiss,hug and date a minor as long as nothing sexual happens?Please!I need your answers,this has been eating at me!I promise to be celibate and loyal to her until the day I can marry her,I will treat her well and avoid sex,even if she initiates.Please don't get the wrong idea,I really love her!Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2009): Fine - be loyal to her, but until she is 16 you have to remain her friend rather than in a relationship to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2009): Leave this girl alone! She is only 12! what's wrong with you? No 17 old I know would EVER go there with a 12 year old, your mental brains are at such diffrence places and your diffrent sexual experinces as well. Your only 17, I'm sure there are girls around your age like 15-17 that are virgins. Why go for a girl that hasn't even hit teen years?I believe you need help. You go for the much older women and now your heading for the girls that are far too young. Get some help, seriously.
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reader, Chaddles  +, writes (4 June 2009):
You soun like a nice bloke, and it's great that you have the brain cells to check first. But no, it's not ok.
Just wait another 4 years and see if she's still with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2009): No, it's not legal:
"Under the Criminal Code of Canada anyone under the age of 16 cannot legally consent to any form of sexual activity, from kissing to intercourse. It means that adults are criminally liable if they have sex with someone under that age. The offence carries a maximum penalty of 10 years in prison."
http://canadaonline.about.com/od/canadianlaw/g/ageofconsent.htm
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