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writes: Hi--first off i will say i am a generally suspicious person. So with my boyfriend of over a year--i do question certain things that occur and often look for advice to see if i am reading too much into a situation OR i might possibly not be going overboard and am correct on things.My b/f and i were pretty much on the verge of breaking up but we were talking and i did say when he called so i guess you dont wanna see me..and he says i guess in a sarcastic way.. about an hour later around 4 i text message him saying why you guess u wanna see me? i wanted to read his response--no answer for 45 minunutes or so..i text message him again just saying well?? Didn't think it would be a big deal...he calls me soon after that second text and i am at work and i say can i call you back in 2 minutes and he said no actually can i call you back--(he works for a company when he has his own little truck-fixes things--rather not be too specific on this details) he says he has a guy from work in the truck and couldnt respond and didnt wanna get into personal stuff or a text message convo at that point--he said he is outside his truck now and the guy is inside--in my head i am thinking--he had to go out of his truck to tell me that? why can't he speak if this is just a guy? I say to him so i can't call you back in 2 minutes--and he just said fine. I do call him back and no answer--i'm sorry but i really start freaking out thinking he had a girl there and was trying not to let her know he had a g/f and he shouldnt be having a girl in his truck anyways ..i call 2 more times and he finally picks up and he says any normal person would say ok i will talk to you after you drop them off and my b/f was like this isn't like a friend of mine, what's the problem with calling you back? I said, so now you are outside your truck saying this and he says no..obviously i dont know if this is true or not..i just say whatever to my b/f.I call him about 25 minutes later and he pretty much asks me what happened there--and i said i think its very weird how you couldn't talk if this was a guy--he said it was a guy from the company, he hardly knows him but he saw him and he wasnt working and he lives not too far so he drove him home. And then he said so now i'm doing something in my truck? what do you think i am doing? And then basically he was ready to break up right there and then--saying i can't do this anymore, i thought it would get better and i said to myself maybe..i basically had to stop him and apologize for accusing him in order for us to kind of work it out...In my mind--was i reading too much into it? A friend said he seems like he is up to something, whereas another said--wouldnt he put his phone on silent or something even if he did see this girl he knows but randomly ran into or just ignore your calls and not get out of the truck while she was in there?I had to drop it b/c at this point bringing up anything like this and saying "i think this was weird"--will lead to a break up. Am i being played for a fool? or since he was really ready to break up, could he be telling the truth?
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reader, jezibelinhell +, writes (15 July 2006):
 Has he given you any other reasons to be concerned? Has he cheated in the past? If so, or if you just have a gut feeling, take a watchful approach until something concrete rears it's ugly head. Then rub his nose in it. ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2006): From the one who posted: he has written me back while on a pole fixing something and even talks to me when he is driving..so the fact that he didnt this time is weird to me but if the majority saying i'm reading too much into, i guess more than likely they are right
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reader, jezibelinhell +, writes (14 July 2006):
I think you are reading waaaaay too much into this. The guy was at work...and with a co-worker. I would never even consider calling my man at work unless someone was bleeding. Especially if he's driving. Please tell me you didn't expect him to send text messages while he's behind the wheel of a car! There is a time and place for everything and you chose a very inappropriate time to want to discuss very personal relationship issues. Next time wait til he gets home. You really need to work on your trust in him. You may be causing an inevitable breakup with completely unfounded suspicions.
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