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writes:I live in a two bedroom apartment with my husband and I'm nine months pregnant. A little over a month ago I asked my husband to clean the second bedroom out so I can clean the carpets and put up the nursery. I even went out and rented a storage unit for him to put the stuff in. But instead of cleaning the room he goes out and helps his friends move. Or paint or whatever else they ask him to do. He says that he will get it done and that I need to stop bugging him about it. We have a little over 2 weeks left until the babies due. Am I over reacting??? Is it just hormones??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (26 March 2010):
I remember this 'nesting instinct'.. With all my pregnancies towards the end I was in spring cleaning 'momzilla' mode. But ofcourse this is a reasonable request and he is being insensitive. I would ask a male friend to come over shirt less to do it while I served him steaming mugs of coffee and looked particularly happy that day. But I'm psycho like that so it might not be for you. So normal behavior would perhaps be asking his father or mother to come over or your own mother/brother/best friend to help out. Unfortunately if nagging Is not working then cut him out of the loop so he can see that you have options and can hopefully be embarassed by having his own father doing it for him. You really dont have time to wait for him so leave him out as he has chosen to he irrelevant at this time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't see how I could have been any clearer in what I wanted. And since I asked him enough times to have him tell me to stop bugging him it would seem I made myself quite clear. I have kept in mind that you are men but apparently I didn't consider the idiot part. Nine months pregnant....nursery.. Hmmmm I wonder when I should have that done by?!? It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure it out. And saying that I need to write a letter to get men to understand doesn't really say much for the male species either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2010): He clearly isn't on your page in this and cleaning out the second bedroom isn't on the top of his list of priorities. Angry, not sure if that's the best reaction, highly annoyed on the other hand sounds more fitting. Maybe you didn't give him the instructions right the first time and he thinks there's no need to rush...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (26 March 2010):
 Not hormones, a lazy husband. Tell him to get busy or you'll hire someone to do it.
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