| A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes: Is it appropriate for my boyfriend to continuously accept other girls numbers and/or give his number out to other women? I'm in a long term relationship and I've noticed that my boyfriend has done this several times through out the course of our relationship. For example, a few days ago a woman friend of his roommate came by their place to hang out and I guess my boyfriend had been talking with her and eventually she asked my boyfriend for his cell number to keep in touch and he gave it to her. These situations have happened other times that I'm aware of because they happened in front of me. I've never said anything to my boyfriend about it. I wouldn't say I'm jealous about it, I just don't really like it and I'm not sure why? In a way I feel like giving out your number to start chatting with someone of The opposite sex is somewhat of a way of saying they're available/single. Would really like some outsiders opinions on this.
View related questions:
jealous, roommate Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, MSA  +, writes (8 May 2015):
 I think every relationship is different.
It is up to YOU to tell your boyfriend whether you feel comfortable with him giving his number out to other females.
My boyfriend's didn't appreciate him giving out his phone number or instant message contacts. But she did give in, which actually caused her trouble.
As for me, I don't really care if my boyfriend gives out his phone number or social media contact. To me, if he's going to cheat, he will find a way. If he isn't going to cheat, then he isn't.
A
female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 May 2015):
 Unless he is networking for a hobby or work, there really is NO good reason for him to give out his number to other girls. And to do it right in front of you? that is bold. It's a two part statement in my book, 1: you can be replaced in a heartbeat and 2: he is not very respectful of the relationship.
I have to say that a GIRL who asks a guy for his number RIGHT in front of his GF is looking for trouble.
It can be.... that he doesn't like to say no to girls if they ask. Because he "think" that if he gives out a number, but isn't interested it's NO BIG deal... but here is my 2 cents.. if he isn't interested, he isn't networking... he should just say no, that would not be appropriate.
I know MANY girls will give out their number (or a fake one) to a guy if he asks, because they don't want to be perceived as being "rude" or "mean". Whether a guy thinks that way too, I can't tell.
But I would ask him if he would be OK with you giving out YOUR number to almost random dudes.
...............................
A
male
reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (8 May 2015):
 This is a peculiar form of "guy" behaviour, in which we do this (what your B/F is doing) openly.... such that we then "believe" that there is no "cheating" going on.... since you know all about it!!! AT LEAST (by guy logic) you are being acquiescent about it... and we take that as tacit approval.
YES it's inappropriate for your B/F to be exchanging #s and FB texts, msgs and pictures with other women. BUT, it is up to you to "call" him on it, if you want it to stop....
By-the-by, I think if you DO call him on it.... it will be the "beginning of the end" of your relationship.....
Good luck. You deserve better....
...............................
A
female
reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (8 May 2015):
 How would your bf feel if you randomly handed out your mobile number to other men? I don't think he would like it at all.
Time to have a chat with him.... !
...............................
|
