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writes:How much dedication is important by two people in a relationship for it to survive, last. What if one person is not sensitive towards the needs of the other? Is it harmful when dedication takes the form of devotion? Can a person be dedicated to 2-3 people simultaneously without harming any of them? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2007): Interesting question. Dedication is important in a relation if one or both persons involved [value] dedication. With this new revolution that welcomes variation, "open-minded" curiosities sometimes supposedly for the benefit of the initial relation, this emotional connection that exists between two people is in reformation seemingly. Not all people mold to the epoch, but there are new tendencies. Now, dedication in what circumstances and to whom? You can be dedicated to your family and wish to pay visits to them more often than your marriage duties allow you to. Is it dedication that makes you honour your memories from an ex who meant a lot to you as a friend or more-than-a-friend? Can you mention him without your partner feeling compared or inferior to this piece of your past, thus threatened? In these cases, such forms of dedication can erode at the substructure of your relation or cause smouldering contradictions. Or if you refer to dedication inside the couple, the amount of attention you offer to the other person can be overwhelming and cause discomfort, depending on their emotional needs. If one person is not sensitive towards the needs of the other, this can too be the starting factor of frustrations and interfer with the well-being of the relation. Dedicated to more people without harming any of them? I'd return to the example of the ex or a friend who you want to sacrifice the time you'd allocate to your partner who perhaps needed your presence at home to help him make his purposes count and easier to accomplish. But devotion is not important when the two parties know a break up is imminent and stay together for convenience or other similar reasons. So what do you refer to?
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