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writes:I went out on Friday night with some friends and their friends (whom I had never met). One of the guys asked me for my phone number before I left. He knows I don't have a boyfriend. I gave it to him but I'm not interested at all romantically, although he'd be fun to have as a friend and I don't want to offend him in any way. I actually really like his friend. Today he sent me a text asking if I'd like to meet for coffee next week. No desire to have coffee alone with him. Or is it better to just ignore his text or pretend I never received it?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (2 May 2016):
 Neither is acceptable.
you gave him your number what did you think would happen?
I'll make it easy for you...ask him "who else is going to be there?" if he says "just me" then you can say "I don't want you to get the wrong impression I'm not interested in anything other than just friends" and let him decide.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2016): Just text him back saying thank you for the invite but you have changed your mind as you are not looking for a boyfriend but meeting as a mate is ok. See what he says.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 May 2016):
 If you give out your number, you need to follow up with HONESTY. Either tell him, I'd met up for coffee as long as you understand that I'm not looking for a BF. Or you can go, have coffee and tell him in person.
IF you have NO interest in a guy... don't give him your number. YOU don't OWE a guy your number just because he asks.
But giving out your number and then ignore someone.. that is lame.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (1 May 2016):
 Really..that's a bit childish. You gave it to him, so sort it out as an adult. It's coffee which is pretty casual so let him know sometime during the conversation where you stand.
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