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writes:I had a debate with my mates yesterday, we are all having man problems at the moment. My friend said that if we push for an answer, closeness or comittmnet. We are likely to push the person away. Is that true? I always thought that if it was right it should just fall together. I can see both sides of the argument but its hard to be patient whilst some one seems to be destroying a perfectly good relationship. Any opinions would be good because i cant make up my mind what to do for the best and i am scared of making the wrong decision and ruining things. Is it better to hold back or push for what i want? Reply to this Question
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (6 February 2009):
 Hunny I've learnt in life to just go with the flow, Dont try to hard..If someone cares about you they will let you no one way or another. Its hard I no but the more you want to no the way someone feels it then becomes difficult as if they don't show what you are looking for.. You will then want to put that person in a corner almost until they tell you what you want to hear, And sometimes its just not want you thought...Go with the flow the more someone knows you want them the less they have to work it out for themselves that they may miss you..If someone wants to commit to you, You will no and feel it sweetheart, It will come natural..TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2009): i tried asking his feelings, and told him mine.the end...not going to be doing that unitl in a relationship for a very long long time!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2009): Love cannot be forced.If a person doesn't want to be with you,nothing can make him change his mind.Its better to make a graceful exit.
This is the kind of behavior that makes guys run away to other countries.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2009): i'm finding it too hard to be just friendly, i just want to be with him so much. I feel like ive been thrown on the rubbish heap. I'm finding it hard to get over his so far seemingly broken promises
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (6 February 2009):
Hi Hunny
I believe its better not to push for answers as sometimes you may get the wrong answer anyway, I think in this kind of situation which I may add I've been there not long ago..Its best to leave it...The best way hunny to answer your question is to put yourself in the other persons shoes and imagine how you would feel if someone was pushing for an answer and you really did not no what to say, This kind of thing would push me away as when you are confused about certain things in a relationship you do need time to think. And if its right it will come together if its not then it wont...You can talk we all need that love but when it comes to commitment and finding out were you stand its best I feel not to push to hard as yes you may push that person the opposite way. I hope this helps a little, if you need a chat at any time hun message me TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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