A
female
age
36-40,
*tellar25
writes:My ex boyfriend of two years have just broken up 4 months ago. two months after we broke up he found a new girlfriend and two weeks later he was saying that he loves her. I ended up finding a boyfriend a month after breaking up. Is it bad that we both found people to get over each other? I talk to my ex by text almost every other day. We still talk about that we miss each other and sometimes we talk dirty to each other. I'm really confused because the boyfriend I have now treats me great, but a part of me is still with my ex and I'm having trouble getting over him. My ex has even told me that he still masturbates to pictures of me. His new girlfriend reads some of his text messages and asked him not to talk to me anymore. I told my ex if thats what he wants I wont talk to him anymore, but he said that he doesn't want that. My ex has also lied to her about other things as well about me. Any suggestions on what to do?
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (8 May 2008):
I dont think EITHER of you should be in new relationships at this point in time. Your relationship isnt 'over' really is it? you may not offically be bf and gf and be in a relationship but you are still have a sexual form of a relatiosnhip (through dirty texts and masturbation over ur photos). The emotional side of the relationship is still there too, as you both talk constantly and say you miss each other. Not to mention you admit you have feelings for him still. So yes this is wrong no doubt about it. Its not fair on your new bf who you said treats you so well and its not fair on your ex bf's new gf, who has already told him it bothers him...yet he continues to lie.
Get out of this relationship now until you have decided whether or not your ex should bei n the past or not. You cant have both...dont use this guy to get over your ex, it wont work. As for your ex bf, he has to deal with his gf, if i was you i would advise him to break up with her until he knows what he wants. if he wont do that then i woudl stop contacting him out of respect to his new gf. she deserves that.
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