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*njoythesilence
writes:I work with a co-worker and i have fallen for her. Were becoming good friends and she's mention a few times that she would not date anybody that she works with. At this point i have not expressed how i feel about her. In someways i understand her point and the risk involved but when it comes to life and love i feel that their should be no boundaries. So my question is, what are my chances and is this a lost cause?
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reader, Enjoythesilence +, writes (27 January 2008):
Enjoythesilence is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everybody. You guys always help alot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): You work with a co-worker. That's nice for you. But to the topic: You want to ignore what she says - why ask anybody else, you ignore what people say?
No boundaries to life and love! Not many with that philosophy write to an Agony Aunt. I think you're the first one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2008): No boundaries? Really? Hmmm...I think they're pretty important things to have. For instance, you likely have a boundary about the species you'll have sex with. Maybe you even have a boundary about the gender of human you'll have sex with. There, you've already got two boundaries in life and love. And, it's best to take people's words at face value, no matter your suspicions of their deeper intentions. Whether or not she has feelings for you, she's expressing that she doesn't or doesn't date people from work or whatever, and there's got to be a reason for that, so just accept it. Good luck.
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (27 January 2008):
 These days dating someone from work can bring a lawsuit or you could lose your job. I agree that life is too short but there are also plenty of women who do not work with you. Continue to be her friend and who knows one of you may get a better job opportunity and then.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2008): If she has stated that she doesnt want to date co workers then i wouldnt push it or you could lose her as a friend. Just be friends with her for now, who knows what might transpire in the future. Just take it steady and dont scare her away. But if she says no then respect her wishes and if possible move on and meet someone outside of work.take carexx
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