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writes: omg so me and my bf has been having some problems with our relationship resently (he doesnt have a sec of time for me....and id things have just been going down hill with talking to each other and hanging out) but i love him soo much!! and i know he does too.....but i just needed a break to work things with him...and untill his parents would let us see each other....and untill he has enough time for me in his life.so he was playing basket ball today at school i went up to him and told him i wanted a break......he put on this super happy face, and the biggest smile ever, and said in a very happy voice "ok!" that shocked me! cuz hes totaly not like that! hes always for working things out, and even if things dont always work out.....hes never...happy about it...and he seemed really sad this morning because i was almost crying....but idk wut happendand that face just hurt me soo badly so i dumped him dumped him.....and he made the same super happy face and said "yah i no!!" so ive been crying sence then pretty much.....and my heart is aching......and i just want us at least on good turms.....my parents said that its just a guy thing to not show emotion in front of ppl.....but...wut do you guys think?!pls i really need help!(ps im not saying my age so none of these answers are based on my age! cuz those dont help me any!)thank you all!!
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reader, TygersDream  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 Well, sometimes a whale is a sperm and sometimes a whale is just a whale. Since there are so many unresolved problems between the both of you, perhaps he DOES feel relieved to have a break and to be able to have time for himself. I wouldn't say he's HAPPY to be rid of you, or that you're such a burden to be around, but perhaps this isn't the right time for you guys to hook up.
I completely understand the heartbreak you're going through: who WANTS to be faced with such a big smiley face when you break up with the guy?
At the same time, however, I think your parents are right about guys keeping face. You have to examine the time and place you told him about wanting a break in your relationship. You told him in the middle of a basketball game with his friends? You should have planned better, sweetheart, if you wanted an honest reaction from him.
For now, Cry all the tears you want to cry, but accept the fact that you chose a bad time. When your head and heart's all clear, give him a call, admit that you overreacted and apologize for your timing. Ask him if it's a good time to chat, and then explain that you still want a relationship when all your problems have been resolved, and ask him if he still feels the same way.
If he does, then end the chat on a good note. If he doesn't, then I'm sorry, but you'll have more tears to cry. But you have to remember to pick yourself up, and decide to move on.
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