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writes:My boyfriend and I have a daughter. My boyfriend is really comfortable with his body. He walks around naked in front of anyone in his family. His little brother is 11 years old and he has a little cousin who has just turned 7. He thinks because they are all boys that it is not inappropriate in any way to walk around in front of them naked. I feel quite differently. I told him how I felt and asked him not to do it anymore because it was upsetting me. I told him also that because we have a daughter it makes it even more inappropriate. She is newborn so it doesn't really matter at this point, I feel. But there is a certain age limit probably around 3 that I would feel it is no longer appropriate. All he says is, "oh, you've been brain washed by society and it's perfectly natural...blah blah blah." I mean, I see his point...but the fact of the matter is I STILL THINK ITS INAPPROPRIATE! What do I do about this? Is it illegal? Because I am under the impression that it may in fact be illegal and Social Services could be very upset about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2008): no its not against the law some people do walk round their homes naked. its what they believe in.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (9 June 2008):
 This is down to personal opinion and also maybe upbringing, morals etc etc
I walk around naked all the time (Im dressed now honest) and my hubbie took a while to get used to it but now accepts me for who I am. My children are 3, 14 and 16. Its only the last 2-3 years or so Ive thought to cover up in front of the middle child, a boy, as he is getting a bit old now, but if he does catch me out he just looks away. I still however have no problems being naked in front of the 16 year old, a girl, and the 3 year old boy, in fact he strips off in the mornings if he gets in my bed as mummy is naked in bed so he wants to be, fine by me.
When I was a teenager we shared the family bathroom as we only has one then. If I was in the bath and my dad wanted the toilet I would happily let him in but always drew the shower screen/curtain first. So to me its fine to be naked as long as you know when to draw the line.
My first hubbie used to scream at me if I went to the loo when he was brushing his teeth and refused to have a bath with his baby daughter once she reached 8 or 9 months old, thats because in his household as a child nakedness and bodies were seen as wrong and not nice.
So I think it is all down to your upbringing and you have to allow each other to be comfortable. You dont have to get naked in front of anyone but if hes comfortable in front of others I personally think its fine. Maybe come to a compromise so YOU dont have to see this nakedness.
I like this question as I feel it will throw up SOOOO many different answers!!
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (9 June 2008):
 I have never heard of a case from the legal implications that would prevent him from walking around naked in front of children of his own sex, in addition to doing it in his own home. I'm not sure if the same thing holds for an opposite sex child. In general, the things that you do within your own home is largely off limits to legal persecution, with the noted exception of child abuse.
Ultimately, I believe that how you choose to parent your children is up to you and the father. So, unfortunately, I think that you guys need to hash this out for yourselves. Sorry that this isn't much help. Perhaps somebody else can give you more insight.
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