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writes:umm my bf of a year doesnt have sex with me really often when i asked him about it he says that hes one of those guys who after a while the passion for sex with that girl fades and he doesnt want me to fade thats why he spaces it out. he shocked me the other week by us having sex 3 times in one week.is that normall? or is he lying? tnx Reply to this Question
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reader, OMDA  +, writes (30 June 2011):
 well , I have another opinion rather having a low sex drive ,
some people including my girl friend believe in building a hunger for sex , at first i was feeling weird when she told me about that but after I practice building up sex hunger I found it awesome ,
talk to your bf about it , maybe that's what he is thinking of but he couldn't explain it well
Good luck
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reader, eddie85  +, writes (29 June 2011):
 It definitely sounds like he has a lower than usual sex drive.
It is somewhat customary that as a relationship ages, that the desire to have sex with one another diminishes. For some people, that occurs in a matter of months, while others it can take years.
Everybody is different and is on different schedules. It also depends a lot about the chemistry of the couple and whether they still "work" at turning each other on.
Part of being a successful couple though, is working to keep your partner sexually satisfied. Even if you don't feel like it, you owe your partner that much. The question you need to ask him and yourself is that, X years (or months) from now, is he still going to oblige you when you feel the need to be loved?
Only time and an open dialog on the subject with him will keep you happy in the long run. But this could be a relationship "red-flag" if you have a much higher sexual drive than he does.
Good luck.
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reader, Abella +, writes (28 June 2011):
 Yes, marieclaire is correct he may have a low sex drive.
Some men and some women rarely feel inclined to have sex. But if his sex drive is low now then things will only get less with the years.
His explanation, of why he spaces things out, is one I have never heard. Usually couples grow closer, and don't need to space it out.
And on that momentous time recently, three times in a week, he may have decided to try to lift his game. Three times a week sounds very normal to me. But if he is in your age bracket then I would be surprised if he needed to space things out this much. If you do not live with him is there any chance that he is sharing his 'gifts' around more than you know?
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