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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone I have been in a fwb situation for 11 months now none of us planned for it to be this it just kinda happened anyway this is the problem I had a lot of family problems recently so I kept in touch texting him n that but I got a text back saying I had been cheating on him but I honestly wasn't I told him this and he broke it off with me this has happened twice now my question is why would he break it off with me if we are not together properly and also why would he be so bothered if I was seeing someone else even though I'm not thank you
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 January 2012):
 I would honestly drop him and stop seeing him. If all he wants from you is sex (FWB) then it's none of his beeswax if you DO see other guys.
I think he wants YOU to only see him and he can do whatever he wants..
He has accused you of "cheating" twice in 11 months but doesn't seem to want a "real" relationship with you, so my question to you is this, WHY are you wasting you time on this guy?
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reader, Abella +, writes (20 January 2012):
 Sadly, he does not have enough trust in you. And he wants you 'on tap' for his convenience. Yet is unwilling to put up with any inconvenience to HIS schedule. HIS needs. HIS wants.
He is not being respectful. He is using you as a resource for his pleasure (FWB). But if you are not available he does not want to know about your problems. And he certainly does not want to 'go without'
He sounds far too selfish and distrustful to be a nice friend.
He has no grounds for suggesting you are cheating. And even more sadly he may even be using this as an excuse to pick a fight, as a cowards way to break up - by blaming you. When really he is too shallow to really care much for you.
Maybe set a goal for your next guy - no FWB. Because invariably one half of the FWB couple falls for the other. But the other person does not. It is too heart breaking.
You know you did not cheat.
And already he has broken off with you twice? using the same scenario.
You know you have some personal issues.
But has be cared about that? I don't think so.
A really good guy would at least show some empathy and understanding. And not accuse you of cheating.
Please consider valuing you and who you are more highly so that you do not put up with inconsiderate selfish thoughtless behavior from a guy like this.
Look at a guy's ACTIONS and this guys actions mean it is time to say goodbye to him. He needs a girlfriend who is as inconsiderate as he is.
And that is NOT you. So keep an eye out for a nice guy who is as considerate as you are.
best wishes
Abella
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2012): It sounds as if he wants the benefits of a FWB situation for himself, but not for you (even though you say he has no cause to think you have been with someone else). Dual standards. Point out to him that the deal is you are free agents, that is the point, if he wants to be exclusive with you then you agree that you are an item. There is no middle ground. Do you like him enough to be together? If not I wouldn't bother with him.
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