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writes: Okay, so I recently hooked up with a friend that i've know for two years. He was in town for a week in FL, but for the summer he is living in OH. Anyhow, we both had no idea we liked each other, and decided to hook up at a party. It was only close friends, btw. Ever since he moved back to OH, we've been talking every night for 3-5 hours. We talk about a large amount of topics, discussing his life and mine. We both say we don't want a relationship..but i kinda do. Do you think he would want one too, but is too shy to actually tell me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): TRUST ME when i say that NO MAN is going to talk to someone on the phone every night for 3 to 5 hours if that someone wasnt really special. he might not want to give up his party-ing lifestyle for a relationship. also, it sounded like you implied that he lives far away? he might not want a long-distance relationship. i dont think he's shy because it doesnt seem like a shy person to hook up at a party OR to talk for that long every night. i think hes just confused. i think your best option right now is to just ask him what he really wants, and what he sees in the future for the two of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): wow!!! that almost sounds like my situation that im having right now....i got this friend that ive known for 14 yrs,we aint talked in 4 yrs. i had a crushed on her from the 1st day. ive yet to have tell any of my friends or her. we ran into eachother 2 mos. ago and btw i live out of state. ever since then we've been talking on the phone 1-2 hrs everyday or every other day. ive takened her to vegas and hawaii alone. i have yet told her how i feel or know if she even likes me... im too scared to tell her!! anyways what im getting at is maybe your friend is the same.try not calling him for 2 days and see if he calls you. if he does then i think 99% he does want to hook up with you.
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reader, Basketstar +, writes (17 June 2008):
You should ask him if he wants a relationship. If not you can still be friends and maybe as time goes on he may decide he does want a relationship. Or just play by ear. Hope this helps Basketstar!
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