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writes:I just started dating this guy. He is really sweet but gets me so frustrated some times because he is so opinionated, as so am I. He says he loves me and I love him so much. He makes me really happy, but the problem is we don't talk that much. He is to busy sometimes it seems for me. I have told him this before and all he says is "I promise it will change." It hasn't. It has defiantly gotten worse. Now when we do talk, it seems like everything I say to him is wrong, and we start fighting. He says I "never listen to him about anything."I'm starting to feel like he don't want to be with me any more. Or that he is losing feelings. I'm scared to bring it up though, because I know if I'm right that I might get really hurt. I just can't deal with getting hurt right now. I've been hurt so many times. I really have put a lot of trust into this guy. What do I do? What do I say? I'm so confused. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe talked and he said that he sometimes feels like I'm not open enough with him that is exactly why he can't be open with me. We talked for a very long time about the situation and we decided to work things out. The past few days have been great. Me and him have both been trying hard. He also explained to me that he is sorry that he is busy so much, and he does try to talk to me as much as possible, there is just things that he has to do. I understand. I think maybe I just get lonely and that is why I feel this way. So now we have set up something where it will give us both time for each other no matter what. Thanks for the answers, really are helpful, but I think I'm going to stick with this one. He is exactly what I want and need.
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reader, 48years  +, writes (5 May 2009):
 If he is disrespectful of your feelings, then he doesn't love you enough. If he is critical of you, he doesn't love you but wants to control you. If you have doubts now, break it off and find someone kinder, to whom you can talk to.
Don't put up with some guy making you unhappy when there are hundreds of other fellas just waiting for you to break up with him so they can take you out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): Listen, one of the key things in a relationship is communication. If you do not have it then there will eventually be problems. Figure out a way to talk to him without sounding like you are complaining or nagging him. Tell him that you want to keep communication open so that you have a strong relationship. Ask him if he can think of ways to better things. And if it is that he is losing interest, wouldnt you rather know now then months down the road? Good luck...J
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