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writes:My boyfriend had been with his ex girlfriend for two years they were first loves. They broke up about a year ago still talk a lot and hang out and are friends it bothers me because im in the picture now. She is recently single and told him she wants to hang out when she comes back home. He gets mad when i bring this issue up so i dont anymore. Do you think he's still in love with her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2008): Hi, I'm in the same issue. My boyfriend was in a relationship for 4 years w/ his ex. Although he tells me he's over it, I still feel like he's not over it. No one really gets over their 1st loves, especially if both are each other's first loves. I'd love to tell you differently, but there are memories you can't ever replace, secrets you will never know, things you will never understand. You can either take that and accept it and trust in that because he's with you he loves you at least more than he does her, or you can give into your insecurities and call it quits b/c you can't ever erase her existence from his heart and mind. Hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): The best thing for you to do is this:ask yourself one question and ask honestly.Are you comfortable with him or not.If the answer is no quit now and never look back gal.The world is yours to explore sista
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reader, Mistify  +, writes (15 November 2007):
 First loves, for most people, is a VERY intense experience, and it is HARD to just cut and move on.
I don't think he is still in love with her, but the fact that he doesn't heed to your needs in this regards is means for worry.
You must understand that they probably have a very deep connection, and it will take some time for you and your bf to reach that point. In saying this, i think you need to sit him down, tell him WHY it bothers you so much, and what you are worried about. If he tells you that you don't have anything to worry about, then BELIEVE and TRUST him. He is probably being honest. At least, if he hasn't given you ANY reason NOT to trust him, then you should trust him. He needs to understand that you are his current gf and that you guys should work together towards a nicer and better relationship. It is wrong of you to ask of him to break all contact with his ex (unless he's given you reason to believe somthings up), but it is also wrong of him to just ignore your concerns, and get mad about them. You need a good chat.
Good luck...
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