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41-50,
*unaazul
writes:So I've been having so many doubts since I started dating this guy two months ago. Finally I got what I've wanted to hear from him since I really like him.We had such a great time last saturday. I met more friends of him and we went hiking, afterwards we went to his friends' house and sang with karaoke. Again we stayed together from 9:30am till 11pm, when I thought about driving back home 1h and a half away from his place where I parked my car, I was very tired, it was late and he asked me to sleep over his apartment, he said he had jammies for me, a toothbrush, towels, etc...early that morning he had changed the sheets of his bed. He offered me his bed and he slept in his studio. I was really surprised by his behaviour, he was a gentleman, very respectful. Before going to bed that night, we talked about what he meant on his last mail to me, and he said that he wanted to date me exclusively indeed but said that he has some female friends he'd met online and sometimes talk to them on a friendship level, nothing romantic.he said that when he kisses one person that's the only person for him and he doesn't kiss others. When I asked him about his profile on the site I met him, he said he hid it and also cancelled his subscription. He didn't tell me anything about the other site where I found another profile of him and whose subscription ends at the end of this month. He hugged me tight and kissed me gently on the lips. Are we now in a committed relationship? I mean that we're committed to date just each other since it was him who say to be exclusive? I can hardly believe myself all these wonderful experiences with him. He's being in touch with me by phone and emails, however I haven't heard from him at all yesterday, he didn't answer his phone when I called him. It was his ex-girlfriend's birthday that sat night and he said first we were gonna go but later the same day he said we wouldn't. His reason was that we haven't been dating for so long so it was not a good idea that he takes me with him. Could it be because he thinks I'm not at the same level of his ex-girlfriend? that he still is looking for someone who really deserves to be seen with him by everybody? Thanks, I appreciate all your suggestions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): This guy seems very geniune and sincere. I think you should give him a fair chance. Take it easy don't rush! Enjoy the "ride" and hold tight. You will soon discover what he meant and if in doubt ask him openly about the excluse part, might make him wonder if you have one or tow admirers lingering, which cannot do to much harm; only make him realize he must move...."snooze and you loose"!
Have fun and best of luck!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 June 2008):
 It seems to me that this man is being very honest with you. He didn't expect you to come into his life, so he had some things going and maybe female friends, too. Now that you're there, he wants you and you only.
It's a good sign that he was that "gentlemanly" at his home. It means he won't push you to do things.
I say, don't worry. And don't think you're not up to the level of anybody else.
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