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writes:Now, it might be a little long so please bear with me.My boyfriend and I have been together for a while, and at first, I really didn't mind him spending time with his female best friend because well...they're best friends! But now, it's starting to affect me because I'm starting to sense he spends a little TOO much time with her. For example, he sees her almost everyday of the week because they have tennis camp, but then on the weekends, they'll hang out too. I get that she's his best friend and everything, but it's been bothering me ever since I found out she STILL likes him, and she doesn't hide it very well either. When I go out with him, it's only around 2 or 3 times a week and even then, he asks if I would want to go to her house. Every conversation we have, she comes up at least once. It's always.. "Oh, ____ did this..." "____ said that." He's told me once that he's done everything with her and they went exploring... and when I wanted to do that, he tells me there's no where to go. It makes me feel as if it'd be better if they went out because aren't best friends usually the best lovers?I get so confused because he tells me no one has ever been to his house and inside his room, and I'm the only one that has. He makes me feel special and I really like him. But are they spending too much time together or is it my insecurities?
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (19 July 2011):
 you are right to be insecure. he tells you you two can't explore coz there is no where to go, but he goes with her?? she likes him as more than a friend and she is very open about this?? (are you SURE that she likes him as more than a friend or have you just decided this?)
so basically she is the one that gets to spend all the quality time with him - but you're the one that gets to go in his bedroom?? lucky you eh??
at best he is being very insensitive to you, at worst there is something going on between them, or at least brewing.
either way, this relationship is not gonna be a happy one for you while there is 3 people in it. have you told him that it bothers you? you have been a good girlfriend and very patient with this (many would have shown him the door long ago) now is the time to try things on YOUR terms for a change and that means less time with his flirtatious best friend, and more time concentrating on his relationship with you, if it means anything to him
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