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writes:Hi all. I'm a bisexual (for lack of better labels...) man 28 y.o., in a situation that needs your input :)I'm not gonna go in detail about myself, I just wanna state that when a girl fancies me I can tell, however I dont seem to be able to tell for men. And i usually end up falling for straight ones...Anyway, the "situation". So at my job, a new guy was hired. He looks straight and is 30-ish. At first he seemed pretty distant. He would join us all for a smoke etc, but never talked with anyone at all. So, I made the first move and made a joke about something that he found funny and then we just clicked.He is sitting just opposite-left-ish from me, and at random I get him catching glimpses of me. Also, when i catch him staring, he smiles. Today even, I was watching something on my monitor and I smiled, then suddenly I turn my head, and there he was smiling at me.Now this has been going on for a month or so, and the talking is now also been done outside of work through messages. I subtly asked how can we communicate outside work for work related issues if something would happen, and I left him my number while leaving the office. Same day at midnight, i get a text from him saying hi. Now he sends all sort of random funny texts and emojis :)So today, it was about lunch time. i told him "come on. It's time for lunch. Go" (as he usually leaves the office to go grab lunch). His reply was "you're coming with me. For a coffee". Though, I freaked a bit, unsure by how he meant it, so I kind of let it slide and missed that chance...Well, he makes my day special, and I like him. But I'm not sure if he does this cause he is just nice, or if he likes me a bit more than a colleague.So my question to you, my dear aunts, is, do you think by what I could write here, that he shows signs of him showing interest in me in a more than a colleague way, or not?Thank you :)
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reader, ashleighkaylin  +, writes (7 January 2018):
 This is a hard one, but I don't think it matters if he likes you or not. I agree it could get awkward if he doesn't like you and even more awkward if he's not even gay! If you don't have a gaydar (I don't and I didn't even know what that was until a few months ago), I'd be extra careful. Sometimes even the nicest people can freak out about being taken the wrong way and make a false harassment case. Tread carefully, meat your men and women online or in the community instead of work. :-)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 May 2017):
 It really is hard to tell. He could like you or he could just be friendly. Although really is it wise getting involved with someone you work with? If it went wrong things would be very awkward.
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